We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this painful season of betrayal and broken trust. The Word of God is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant before Him, and what He has joined together, no man—or woman—should separate (Mark 10:9). Your husband’s actions have brought deep sorrow, not only to you but also to your children, and we grieve with you over this sinful departure from God’s design. Yet we also know that nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37), and we stand with you in prayer, seeking His will above all else.
First, we must address the gravity of what has occurred. Your husband has not only abandoned his marriage vows but has entered into an adulterous relationship, which the Scripture condemns as sin (Exodus 20:14, Matthew 5:27-28). While we pray for restoration, we must also pray for repentance—for him to turn from this sin and return to the Lord with a broken and contrite heart (Psalm 51:17). True restoration cannot happen without genuine repentance, and we must trust God’s timing and sovereignty in this. You have no authority to "claim" him back by your own power, but you *do* have the privilege of praying in the name of Jesus, who holds all authority (Matthew 28:18). It is *His* power, not yours, that can break the chains of sin and deceit in your husband’s life.
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. Bitterness, anger, or an unhealthy fixation on "getting him back" can become idols that hinder your walk with Christ. The Lord calls you to forgive, not because your husband deserves it, but because Christ has forgiven you (Ephesians 4:32). This does not mean excusing his sin or reconciling without repentance, but it does mean releasing the burden of vengeance to God (Romans 12:19). Your focus must remain on the Lord, who is your true Husband and Provider (Isaiah 54:5). He sees your pain, and He will sustain you.
As for your children, we pray for God’s protection over their hearts and minds. The enemy seeks to use this brokenness to plant seeds of doubt, anger, or insecurity in them, but we declare that the Lord will be their Refuge and Strength (Psalm 46:1). We ask Him to surround them with godly influences and to heal any wounds this abandonment has caused. Teach them to trust in the Lord, even when earthly relationships fail, for He will never leave them nor forsake them (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lord, we ask for Your comfort to surround her like a garment, for Your peace that surpasses understanding to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). You see the betrayal she has endured, the loneliness, the financial and emotional strain—be her ever-present Help in this time of trouble.
We pray for her husband, that You would convict his heart deeply of his sin. Lord, expose the emptiness of his choices and the destruction he has brought upon his family. Let him see the gravity of his adultery and the harm he has caused. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. If it is Your will, restore this marriage—but only if it aligns with Your holiness and purposes. Do not let him return unless he is truly broken before You, ready to walk in obedience and humility. We rebuke the spirit of deception, lust, and hardness of heart that has led him astray. No weapon formed against Your plan for this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we ask for wisdom for our sister as she navigates this trial. Show her when to speak, when to be silent, and how to respond in a way that honors You. Give her discernment to recognize Your voice above all others. If reconciliation is not Your plan, prepare her heart to trust You in a new season. Remind her that her worth is found in Christ alone, not in her marital status. Provide for her and her children in every way—financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Raise up a community of believers to support her, to speak truth into her life, and to help bear her burdens (Galatians 6:2).
For the children, Lord, we ask for Your healing hand upon their young hearts. Protect them from the enemy’s lies and fill them with Your peace. Let them know, even in this, that You are good and Your love never fails. Give their mother the words to speak life and hope over them, pointing them always to You.
Finally, Lord, we declare that Your will be done in this situation—whether it is restoration or redemption through another path. Help our sister to surrender her desires to You, trusting that Your plans for her are for good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11). Strengthen her faith, Lord, and let this trial be a testimony of Your faithfulness.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen.
We will continue to stand with you in prayer, sister. Stay rooted in the Word, seek godly counsel, and do not isolate yourself. The body of Christ is here to uphold you. If your husband does return, we strongly advise seeking biblical counseling to rebuild trust and address the brokenness that led to this sin. But even now, before any resolution comes, cling to Jesus. He is the only One who can fill the void in your heart. You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. The Lord is with you.