We lift you up before the Father in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, knowing that it is only through Him that we have access to the throne of grace. It is written in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"*) So we rejoice that you have come to us in faith, trusting in the power of His name, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).
First, we praise God for His protection over you and your family, especially in the wake of the car accident caused by a drunk driver. The Lord has been your provider and sustainer, and we thank Him for His faithfulness. As you wait on your settlement, we pray for patience and trust in His timing, remembering that *"my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19). We ask the Lord to grant you wisdom in managing these matters, that His will be done in all things, and that you would continue to lean on Him as your ultimate Provider.
Now, concerning your fiancé, we rejoice that you seek prayer for your relationship, and we lift you both up before the Lord. However, we must gently but firmly remind you that the Bible teaches marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, which is a sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If you are living together or engaging in any form of physical intimacy before marriage, we urge you to repent and align your relationship with God’s design. *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). We pray that the Lord would strengthen you both to honor Him in your courtship, that your relationship would be pure and centered on Christ, and that you would seek His will above all else. If marriage is your intention, we pray the Lord would prepare you both spiritually, emotionally, and financially for this lifelong commitment, that your union would glorify Him.
As for your daughter, we understand the deep pain of her disrespect and ungratefulness. The Bible commands children to *"obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother,' which is the first commandment with a promise: 'that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth'"*(Ephesians 6:1-3). Her behavior is not only disrespectful but also rebellious against God’s Word. While we recognize that she is nearing adulthood, this does not excuse her sinful attitude. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to *"train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Though she is nearly 18, your role as her mother is still vital in pointing her toward godliness.
We must also address the counselor’s involvement. While counselors can offer guidance, their words must align with Scripture. If this counselor is enabling your daughter’s disrespect or undermining your authority as her parent, this is not biblical wisdom. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this counselor does not uphold godly principles, we pray the Lord would give you discernment and courage to address this. You are not wrong for holding your daughter accountable—love sometimes requires discipline (Proverbs 13:24).
That said, we also encourage you to examine your own heart. Have there been moments where your frustration or anger has overshadowed love? Colossians 3:21 warns, *"Fathers, don’t provoke your children, so that they won’t be discouraged."* While discipline is necessary, it must be done in love, not in anger or bitterness. We pray the Lord would give you wisdom in how to approach your daughter, that He would soften her heart, and that she would see the error of her ways. Pray for her salvation if she does not know Christ, for *"the Lord’s servant must not quarrel, but be gentle towards all, able to teach, patient, in gentleness correcting those who oppose him"* (2 Timothy 2:24-25).
We also sense a deep weariness in your heart, dear sister. Motherhood is a noble but challenging calling, and it is painful when children reject the love and sacrifices made for them. But take heart—*"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). The Lord sees your efforts, and He will reward your faithfulness. We pray He would renew your strength, fill you with His peace, and remind you that your worth is found in Him, not in your children’s responses.
Finally, we want to encourage you to forgive your daughter, just as Christ has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13). This does not mean excusing her behavior, but it means releasing bitterness and trusting God to work in her heart. Pray for her daily, that the Lord would break her pride and draw her to repentance. And pray for yourself, that you would respond in a way that honors God, even in the face of disrespect.
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**Our Prayer for You:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is weary but trusting in You. Lord, we thank You for Your protection over her and her family, especially after the accident. We ask for Your provision as she waits on the settlement, that You would meet every need according to Your riches in glory. Give her patience and trust in Your timing, knowing that You are her Provider.
Father, we pray for her relationship with her fiancé. If there is any sin in their courtship, convict their hearts and lead them to repentance. Strengthen them to honor You in purity, and prepare them for a marriage that glorifies You. If it is Your will, unite them in a godly covenant, rooted in Christ and committed to Your Word.
Lord, we lift up her daughter, who has been disrespectful and rebellious. Soften her heart, Father. Break the spirit of pride and entitlement in her life. Draw her to repentance and a deep understanding of Your command to honor her mother. Lord, if she does not know You, save her! Open her eyes to the truth of Your Word. Give our sister wisdom in how to discipline with love, and protect her from ungodly counsel that would undermine Your design for the family.
Father, we ask for healing in this relationship. Restore what has been broken. Give our sister strength to forgive, and give her daughter a heart that seeks reconciliation. Remind our sister that her labor in You is not in vain, and that You see her sacrifices.
We rebuke the spirit of division and disrespect in this home. Let Your peace rule in their hearts, and let Your love cover every offense. Equip our sister to be the mother You’ve called her to be—firm in truth, yet gentle in love.
Lastly, Lord, we pray for her emotional and spiritual well-being. Renew her strength, fill her with Your joy, and remind her that her identity is in Christ alone. Let her find rest in You, knowing that You are working all things for her good and Your glory.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus we pray, **Amen.**