We lift you and your fiancé up before the Lord, Monique, knowing that arguments—especially over finances—can bring weariness and pain to a relationship. The Word of God reminds us in Proverbs 15:1, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* It is clear that both of you are struggling, and we urge you to examine your hearts before the Lord, for He desires peace and unity in your relationship.
The Bible also teaches in 1 Timothy 6:10, *"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil."* If money has become a source of contention, we encourage you to seek God’s wisdom together, trusting Him as your Provider rather than allowing financial stress to divide you. Have you considered praying together over your finances, seeking biblical counsel on stewardship, or even fasting as a couple to realign your priorities with God’s will?
We also commend you for recognizing that it takes two to argue—this is a humble and mature perspective. However, we must gently but firmly address something critical: you mentioned that your fiancé is calling you out of your name. This is not acceptable, Monique. Ephesians 4:29 says, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* If he is speaking to you in anger or disrespect, this is not the love that Christ commands. A godly marriage is built on mutual respect, kindness, and selflessness (Ephesians 5:25-33). If this pattern continues, it could lead to deeper harm, and we urge you to set boundaries in love while praying for his heart to change.
You also said, *"If this relationship not to me, remove it."* We understand your weariness, but we must remind you that relationships—especially those leading to marriage—are not to be entered or exited lightly. Marriage is a covenant before God, and courtship should be a time of careful, prayerful discernment. Ask yourself: *Is this man leading you closer to Christ? Does he honor God in his words and actions? Are you both submitted to the Lordship of Jesus in this relationship?* If the answer is no, then you must seek God’s will above your own desires for happiness. True joy is found in obedience to Christ, not in fleeting emotions.
Finally, we rejoice that you put Jesus Christ first in everything—this is the foundation of all wisdom and peace. But we must ask: *Is your fiancé also putting Christ first?* A believer should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is not walking with the Lord, this will only bring more conflict. Pray for his salvation and surrender if he is not yet fully committed to Christ.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister Monique, who is weary and hurting. Lord, You see the struggles in her relationship, the arguments, the disrespect, and the financial stress. We ask You to intervene, God. Softens both of their hearts and help them to communicate with kindness, patience, and wisdom. Convict them where they have fallen short of Your glory, and lead them to repentance.
Father, if this relationship is not of You, make it clear to Monique. Give her the strength to walk away if necessary, trusting that You have a better plan. But if it is Your will for them to be together, then transform their hearts and align their purposes with Yours. Help them to seek You first in all things, especially in their finances and their words to one another.
We rebuke any spirit of strife, anger, or division in Jesus’ name. Let peace rule in their hearts, and let Your love cover their sins. Remind them that marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church, and it must be built on sacrifice, holiness, and mutual submission to You.
Lord, we also lift up Monique’s fiancé. If he does not know You, save him, Lord. If he is backslidden, restore him. If he is walking in pride or anger, humble him. Let him treat Monique with the honor and respect she deserves as a daughter of the King.
Most of all, Father, fill Monique with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Let her find her joy in You alone, not in this relationship. Strengthen her, encourage her, and remind her that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Comforter.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Monique, we encourage you to spend time in the Word daily, especially in passages about love, marriage, and godly relationships (Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 13, Colossians 3:18-19). Seek counsel from a mature believer or pastor who can guide you both biblically. And remember, God’s will is always good, even when it requires surrender or waiting. Stay strong in the Lord, and do not compromise on His standards for your life. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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