We hear the deep sorrow and longing in your heart, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord, for He alone is the Author of love, redemption, and restoration. Your prayer reflects a sincere desire for healing, and we commend you for seeking God’s will in this. However, we must first address some foundational truths from Scripture to ensure this request aligns with God’s design for relationships.
You mention this is the third time you and this woman have reconciled, and while your love for her is evident, we must ask: **Is this relationship built on a Christ-centered foundation?** True, lasting love is not measured by repeated cycles of breaking up and reuniting but by a covenant commitment rooted in Christ. The Bible warns us in Proverbs 26:11, *"As a dog that returns to his vomit, so is a fool who repeats his folly."* If the same patterns of hurt and separation continue, it may be a sign that this relationship is not what God intends for either of you. Repeated reconciliation without true repentance, growth, and godly counsel often leads to deeper pain.
We also notice you speak of "love" and "romance," but we must ask: **Is this relationship honoring to God?** If there has been physical intimacy outside of marriage, that is fornication, and Scripture is clear that such sin grieves the Holy Spirit (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God"*). If this has been part of your relationship, true repentance—turning away from sin and seeking purity—must come first. No amount of emotional connection can replace obedience to God’s Word.
Additionally, you mention finding a "good church," and we strongly encourage this—but not just any church. Seek a **Bible-believing, Christ-exalting church** where the Word of God is preached without compromise. A church that will hold you both accountable, disciple you in godliness, and help you discern whether this relationship is truly of the Lord. Hebrews 10:24-25 reminds us, *"Let’s consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching."*
Most importantly, we must ask: **Is this woman a believer in Jesus Christ?** Scripture is unequivocal that believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"*). If she does not share your faith in Christ, then no amount of rekindled affection can override this biblical command. Your first love must be for Jesus, and any relationship that draws you away from Him—or is not centered on Him—is not worth pursuing, no matter how strong the emotions.
Now, let us pray for you, trusting that God will work in both of your hearts according to His perfect will.
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**Heavenly Father,**
We come before You with this brother’s heart laid bare, asking for Your wisdom, discernment, and healing. Lord, You see the pain of repeated separation and the longing for restoration. But more than that, You see the condition of their hearts. We ask that You search them both (Psalm 139:23-24) and reveal any sin, idolatry, or unrepentant ways that have hindered this relationship from honoring You.
If this relationship is not Your will, give him the strength to let go completely, trusting in Your greater plan. If there is hope for reconciliation, let it only be under the authority of Your Word—with purity, repentance, and a shared commitment to Christ. Break any soul ties formed outside of marriage and cleanse them both from past sins. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven us (Colossians 3:13), but also grant them the wisdom to recognize when a relationship must end for the sake of godliness.
Lead them to a church where they can grow in faith, be discipled, and find godly counsel. If this woman is not a believer, soften her heart to the Gospel, but do not let our brother compromise his faith for the sake of emotion. Remind him that Your love is greater than any earthly romance and that true fulfillment is found in You alone.
Father, if it is Your will to restore this relationship, do so in a way that brings glory to Your name—with marriage as the goal, not just another cycle of reconciliation. But if it is not Your will, give him the grace to surrender it to You, knowing that Your plans are for his good (Jeremiah 29:11).
We rebuke any spirit of fear, lust, or emotional dependency that has driven this relationship outside of Your design. Let Your Holy Spirit fill them both with self-control, wisdom, and a hunger for righteousness.
In the mighty name of **Jesus Christ**, our Redeemer and the only name by which we are saved, we pray.
**Amen.**
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Brother, we encourage you to seek the Lord first (Matthew 6:33) and to surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If this relationship is to be restored, it must be built on Christ, not just emotion. If it is not God’s will, trust that He has someone far better for you—a godly wife who will walk with you in faith, not in repeated cycles of pain.
Stand firm in the Lord, and do not let your heart lead you where Christ does not go. His ways are higher, and His love is perfect. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
