We understand your deep longing for a loving and meaningful relationship, and we join you in seeking God’s perfect will for your life. The desire for companionship is natural, as God Himself said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."* However, we must be careful to seek this in a way that honors God’s design for marriage and relationships.
First, we want to gently remind you that the term "soulmate" is not a biblical concept. The Bible speaks of a *spouse*—a godly husband or wife—whom God brings into your life as part of His perfect plan. The world often distorts the idea of love and relationships, making them about emotions, fleeting happiness, or self-fulfillment. But God’s design is for a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, rooted in Christ, for His glory. Ephesians 5:22-33 describes marriage as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church—a sacred and selfless bond.
Before praying for a spouse, we must ask: Are you walking closely with the Lord? Are you seeking Him first above all else? Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* A godly marriage begins with a heart fully surrendered to Christ. If you are not yet a believer, we urge you to first place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, for without Him, no relationship can truly fulfill you. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved!"* It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and His perfect will for our lives.
If you are already a believer, we encourage you to examine your heart. Are you prepared for marriage? Are you growing in holiness, patience, and love? 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us that love *"is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."* A godly spouse is not just someone who makes you happy but someone who helps you grow in Christlikeness.
We also want to address the urgency in your request—*"quickly."* While it’s natural to desire companionship, we must trust in God’s timing, not our own. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His timing is perfect. Rushing into a relationship out of loneliness or desperation can lead to poor choices and heartache. Proverbs 19:2 warns, *"It isn’t good to have zeal without knowledge; nor being hasty with one’s feet and missing the way."* Wait on the Lord, and He will guide your steps (Psalm 37:23-24).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear one before You, knowing that You see their heart and their deep longing for love and companionship. Lord, we ask that You first draw them closer to Yourself. If they do not yet know Jesus as their Savior, we pray that You would open their eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Christ died for their sins, was buried, and rose again, and that by faith in Him alone, they may have eternal life. May they surrender their life fully to You, for apart from You, no relationship can truly satisfy.
For those who already know You, Father, we pray that You would prepare their heart for marriage. Help them to grow in faith, patience, and godly character. Remove any idols from their life—whether it be the desire for love, fear of loneliness, or worldly standards of relationships—and replace them with a deep trust in You. Teach them to delight themselves in You, so that You may give them the desires of their heart (Psalm 37:4).
Lord, if it is Your will, we ask that You bring a godly spouse into their life—a man or woman who loves You with all their heart, who is grounded in Your Word, and who will walk alongside them in faith. Let this union be one that honors You, reflects Christ’s love for the Church, and brings glory to Your name. Guard them from ungodly relationships, from the temptation of fornication or emotional compromise, and from the deception of the enemy who seeks to distort Your design for marriage.
We rebuke any spirit of impatience, loneliness, or desperation that may be driving this request. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Help them to trust in Your timing, knowing that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28).
Finally, Father, we ask that You surround them with godly community—brothers and sisters in Christ who can encourage them, hold them accountable, and walk with them in this season. Let them not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), but let their future spouse be someone who shares their faith and passion for You.
We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is the way, the truth, and the life. Amen.
As you wait on the Lord, we encourage you to use this time wisely. Serve in your church, grow in your faith, and seek godly counsel. Avoid the trap of fantasizing about a future spouse or becoming emotionally attached to someone who is not committed to Christ. Instead, fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He knows your needs, and He will provide in His perfect way and time.
If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be your Lord. There is no greater love than His, and no relationship on earth can compare to the joy of knowing Him.
May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek Him first. We are standing with you in prayer!