Prayer that now because of constant hurt and church politics I refuse to go to

[Dexter2020]

Prayer that now because of constant hurt and church politics I refuse to go to church for worship anymore as I don't want any things for it to do with my career and my marriage anymore. I am a Christian but don't go to church and can worship at my own time because I do not want manipulation and control by the church where it is not submission to God will and restrictive. Now I am still a Christian and leave on my own terms not on church terms anymore.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep hurt in your words and we understand how painful it can be when church politics and the actions of people cause wounds, especially when those wounds touch your career and your marriage. We grieve with you over the manipulation and control you have experienced, for that is not the heart of Christ. The Lord says He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds in Psalm 147:3, and we pray He will do that healing work in you. We also want to lovingly speak truth to you about the decision to refuse to go to church for worship anymore and to worship only on your own terms.

We want to gently rebuke the idea that we can walk with God fully alone and on our own terms. While personal worship and time alone with God are vital, Scripture is clear that we are not to forsake our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another in Hebrews 10:25. We are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another in Romans 12:5, and we need the fellowship, accountability, correction, and encouragement that comes from being part of a biblical church family. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the middle of them in Matthew 18:20. To leave on our own terms and declare we will not be under any church any longer can open the door to isolation, bitterness, and spiritual vulnerability. We are called to leave bitterness behind, looking carefully lest there be any root of bitterness springing up and many be defiled in Hebrews 12:15.

At the same time, we affirm that manipulation and control by church leaders is wrong. True shepherds are to shepherd the flock of God which is among you, not as lording it over those entrusted to you, but making yourselves examples to the flock in 1 Peter 5:2-3. Submission is to be to God and His Word first, and we are to obey God rather than men when men stray from His will as in Acts 5:29. If a church has been restrictive in a way that is not submission to God’s will, that should be addressed, and it may be right to seek a healthier, Bible believing fellowship where Christ is preached faithfully and leaders serve with humility, not control. We encourage you not to let the failure of people cause you to turn away from the gift of the church that Jesus Himself loves and gave Himself for in Ephesians 5:25.

We also notice you say you are a Christian but you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. We want to remind you with love that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me in John 14:6. There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved in Acts 4:12. To be a Christian is to believe that Jesus Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again, and to trust Him alone for salvation and to confess Him as Lord. If that is your faith, we rejoice with you, and we encourage you to call upon His name daily, for whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved in Romans 10:13.

Your career and your marriage are precious areas that God cares about deeply. Marriage is a holy covenant before God, and He desires to be Lord over both your work and your home. We encourage you not to separate those areas from submission to God’s will, but to invite Him to lead and heal there. We also encourage you toward forgiveness, even when hurt is deep, bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any, even as Christ forgave you, so you also do in Colossians 3:13, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you in Ephesians 4:32.

We pray together for you now.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, and we lift up this dear one who is hurting. You see the constant hurt, the church politics, the sense of being manipulated and controlled, and the wounds that have touched career and marriage. Lord, we ask You to heal the broken heart and to wash away bitterness and mistrust. Help this one to forgive as You have forgiven us, and to not let hurt build a wall between You and Your people. Lord, reveal Your true character, that You are not a God of manipulation but of love, mercy, and truth. Lead this one to a faithful, Bible believing fellowship where Your Word is taught in truth and grace, where leaders shepherd with humility and where worship together will bring strength and renewal. Restore joy in corporate worship and show that Your will is not restrictive to harm us, but good and perfect to give us life. We pray for Your hand upon this career and upon this marriage, that both would be surrendered to You and built on Your foundation, honoring You and bringing peace. Draw this one closer to Jesus, to know the power of His name, His salvation, and His lordship every day. Give wisdom to discern Your will and courage to walk in it, not on our own terms but on Yours. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

We encourage you to seek the Lord diligently in His Word and in prayer, and to ask Him to guide you to a healthy church where you can be planted, serve, and be served. Do not let the hurt of the past define your future walk with God. Bring your career and your marriage before Him, seeking first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well in Matthew 6:33. We are praying that God will redeem what has been painful and make your faith stronger and your fellowship sweeter than before.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how tired and hurt you are, and how much church politics has cost you. Wanting space after feeling manipulated and controlled makes sense, and we are glad you still want to walk with the Lord on His terms, not anyone else's.

Part of what you are describing is about boundaries. A boundary is simply like a property line, it helps you name what is yours to own and protect, your values, time, energy, and conscience before God, so you can stay connected to others without losing your freedom to say yes and no honestly. Learning to guard your heart in that way is not rebellion, it is part of becoming healthy.

We also hear you want to worship on your own time. It can help to think of that less as trying hard in a moment and more as training over time, like preparing for a long run. Small, regular practices, a quiet prayer, reading Scripture, a moment of stillness, done faithfully, shape us slowly and keep us seeing ourselves as works in progress.

One gentle next step that may help is to take some unhurried time to write what felt controlling or restrictive and what a healthier, God-honoring community would look like for you. If you have one trusted, mature believer outside that church hurt, sharing that list with them can bring clarity without pressure to return before you are ready.

Father, we lift our brother to You in Jesus' name. You see the wounds and the weariness. Bring healing, clear wisdom for his career and marriage, and a steady sense of Your presence as he seeks You. Lead him day by day and keep his heart close to You. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your pain and weariness have been heard, and it is right to bring this burden before the Lord who sees all that has wounded you in His house. Constant hurt and the strife of church politics can leave the soul sore and weary, and the desire to withdraw to worship alone is understandable when trust has been broken and you have felt manipulation and control rather than gentle shepherding according to the will of God.

Yet hear this good word, there is forgiveness with God, and there is healing in Christ. The Scripture says, there is forgiveness, and that forgiveness is with Him, not with men, and it is full and free to every repenting and believing sinner. When the heart has been made bitter by what others have done, that bitterness can be brought to the cross. There dwells in that bitterness a power that helps to sanctify us when we mourn for our own sin against Christ, and that same sorrow makes Christ very sweet and takes away all bitterness against our fellow men. You do not need the forgiveness of those who have hurt you to enter heaven, but for your own soul's peace, to be made tender and forgiving as you have been forgiven, is a healing work only Christ can do.

The leaves of the tree of life are for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ is healing. His leaves change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. You have been wounded in the place where you should have found shelter, and the Lord knows the difference between submission to His perfect will and submission to the restrictive control of men. His yoke is easy and His burden is light, and He will not play fast and loose with you. He heals and pardons together, so that with forgiveness comes the removal of the sting of the wound, and the bitter draught is changed into a healing draught.

It is not good for a believer to walk alone, though the wound may tempt you to do so. The Lord has set His people in a family, not to be under manipulation, but to be cared for in the love of Christ. To worship at your own time in private is precious, but it was never meant to replace gathering with the people of God where the Word is faithfully preached and Christ is exalted. To leave on your own terms may feel like freedom, but true freedom is found in belonging to Christ on His terms, and He promises to lead you to a place where you can serve Him without fear of man.

We pray for you now.

Father, we thank You that there is forgiveness with You, and that You have not left us to wonder whether pardon may be found. We ask You to pour out that sure and complete forgiveness upon this wounded one, and to let the healing leaves of Christ be laid upon every sore place left by hurt and strife. Take away the bitterness that has settled in the heart, and make Christ sweet again. Guard this life from all manipulation and control that is not of You, and teach what it is to submit joyfully to Your will alone. Heal what has been broken in relation to Your church, restore a love for Your people, and in Your wisdom lead to a faithful fellowship where Your Word is honored and Your people are cared for with gentleness and truth. Keep and bless the work of the hands and the bonds of marriage according to Your holy design, and draw this heart back to find rest not in isolation, but in Your presence among Your people. We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord, who died the just for the unjust to bring us to God. Amen.

 

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Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

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[Chrysostom]

Your pain is heard, and thank you for sharing so honestly about the hurt you have experienced. It is understandable to feel wounded and weary when church life has included politics, control and manipulation. Those things grieve God, and it is right to want to follow Christ and not human control.

At the same time, private worship, while precious and necessary, is not what God intends to be the whole of the Christian life. Scripture teaches that the Church is one body, and each local gathering is a part of that whole body. We are members together, not alone, and we are called not to forsake assembling together. That is not because God wants to restrict you, but because we need one another for encouragement, correction, healing and growth, and because Christ himself is present among his people when they gather to hear his word and worship.

True submission is never to manipulation or to a church acting in its own interest. True submission is to God and his will revealed in Scripture. A healthy church does not control for its own sake, but points you to Christ, teaches the word faithfully, and shepherds with gentleness. The hurt you have known does not mean every church will be the same, and it does not mean God wants you to walk alone. Bitterness, if it takes root, will only bring more hurt to your own soul, even while those who hurt you must give account to God.

We want to pray for you, not that God would bless a path of isolation, but that he would bring healing and restoration.

We pray that the Lord Jesus, who alone saves, would heal the wounds left by hurt and church politics, and guard your heart from bitterness. We pray he would give you wisdom and discernment to know the difference between godly leadership and manipulation, and grace to forgive as you have been forgiven. We pray for your career and your marriage, that God would guide and strengthen both according to his good will. And we pray that in time he would lead you to a faithful, Bible believing fellowship where you can worship, be encouraged, and serve as part of his body again, not on the terms of hurt or control, but on the Lord's terms of grace and truth.

If possible, seek a mature and trusted believer or pastor outside that painful situation to talk and pray with as you seek next steps. You do not have to walk this alone, and God has not left you alone.

 

[Silas]

Your hurt is real and it is understandable that constant pain and church politics would make you want to step away. When people use spiritual authority to manipulate and control, that is not submission to the will of God. God never asks for forced compliance. What he wants has to come from the heart, freely given, not legislated or pressured by people.

Jesus himself shows that he sees churches differently than we do on the outside. A congregation can look well organized, busy with good works and labor, and still be far from what he desires. He praised one church because it did not tolerate evil and had the ability to purge what was poisonous from its life, like a healthy body cleanses itself. But to that same church he gave a serious warning. If love is missing, he will not remain. Many gatherings lack love and therefore lack the presence of the Spirit, and that is a tragedy. On the other hand, a church that tries to join itself to worldly power or to control people through rules also fails, because righteousness cannot be forced.

It is important to hear what the Spirit is saying to the churches. The hurt you have experienced, including hypocrisy, is one of the reasons many people are kept away from faith. God sees that hypocrisy and he calls his people to a more excellent way, which is love. Love is voluntary, patient, and does not manipulate.

Withdrawing entirely and living the Christian life on your own terms feels safer after being wounded, but isolation carries its own danger. Scripture teaches not to forsake gathering together. We are called the body and the light in the world together, not alone. When believers are separated from fellowship they lose the strength, protection, and encouragement that comes from being part of the family of God. The purpose of any separation in the New Testament was never to control people, but to bring a person to see the seriousness of sin and to lead them back to repentance and restoration within loving fellowship. When we are cut off, we feel the full weight of that isolation.

Personal worship in your own time is precious and God desires it, but it was never meant to replace life together with other believers under Jesus as the head of the body. He is the one we obey and receive direction from, not a system of politics. Healthy spiritual oversight is not about domination, but about mature, godly people who care for the flock and point you to Christ.

I encourage you not to let the failure of people determine your relationship to the body of Christ. Bring your wounds honestly to the Lord and ask him to heal what has been hurt by control and manipulation. Ask him to give you ears to hear his voice and to lead you to a fellowship where his love is present, where there is freedom from coercion, and where people seek to follow him sincerely. It may take time and discernment, and it is right to be cautious, but do not settle for walking alone.

I am praying for you, that God will heal the hurt, guard you from further harm, restore your trust in him as your head, and guide you back into healthy, loving fellowship where you can both receive and give the encouragement he intends for his people. May you experience his gold refined by fire, the white covering of his grace, and the reality of his presence where love abounds.

 

[hostadmin]

We thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf and we are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer during this difficult time.

We have been praying for you as you shared about the constant hurt and church politics that have caused you to step away from corporate worship. We understand the pain of feeling manipulated and controlled where there should have been grace, and where submission to Gods will was replaced with restrictive demands on your career and your marriage. We have asked the Lord to bring healing to those wounds and to guard your heart as you continue to walk with Him on your own terms in worship.

We pray that God will heal your broken heart as promised in Psalm 147:3 and draw near to you as He promises in Psalm 34:18. We pray that He will give you rest from the weariness and burden you have carried as Jesus invites us in Matthew 11:28, and that He will give you wisdom to discern between true submission to Gods will and the control of people. We pray in Jesus Name that He will protect your marriage and your career, restore your trust where it has been broken, and in His perfect timing lead you to healthy fellowship if it is His will, while still honoring your desire to worship Him sincerely in your own time. We also pray that you will know how deeply God loves you and that your identity remains secure in Christ alone.

If your request was answered and you have found peace, healing, or restored hope, please post a praise report and let us all know so we can rejoice with you. If your request does not seem to have been answered and you are still carrying this hurt or feeling the tension about church, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer.

May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. We continue to lift you up in prayer in Jesus Name.