We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting your burden to Him. The betrayal and brokenness you feel are heavy, and we grieve with you over the unfaithfulness that has torn at the sacred covenant of marriage. Scripture is clear that marriage is a holy union, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church, and adultery is a grievous sin that wounds not only the spouse but the very heart of God. "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous" (Hebrews 13:4 WEB).
First, we must address the sin at hand. If your spouse is engaging in adultery, this is a direct violation of God’s commandments and the vows made before Him. We rebuke this ungodly behavior in the name of Jesus Christ, for "no one can come to the Father except through [Him]" (John 14:6 WEB). There is no other name by which we are saved or by which we can approach God in truth and righteousness. If you have not already, we urge you to confront this sin with love and truth, calling your spouse to repentance and restoration, for "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB).
Yet we also recognize the depth of your pain and the longing for your family to be whole again. We pray for you now, lifting your heart to the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3 WEB). Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, asking for Your mercy and grace to cover this family. Lord, You see the tears and the anguish, and You collect every one of them in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8 WEB). We ask that You would soften the heart of this spouse, that they would turn from their sin and seek Your face in repentance. Restore what has been broken, Lord, and bring healing to this marriage if it is Your will.
Father, we also pray for strength and wisdom for the one who has been betrayed. Give them the courage to stand firm in faith, to forgive as You have forgiven, and to seek Your will above all else. Help them to lean not on their own understanding but to trust in You with all their heart (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB). Surround them with godly counsel and support, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7 WEB).
If restoration is not possible, Lord, we ask that You would be their refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1 WEB). Provide for their every need, both emotionally and physically, and remind them that You are their true Husband and Father (Isaiah 54:5 WEB). Let them find their identity and worth in You alone, and guide them into the future You have prepared for them.
We also rebuke any spirit of bitterness, anger, or unforgiveness that may try to take root in this situation. "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32 WEB). Forgiveness does not mean excusing the sin, but it does mean releasing the offender into Your hands, trusting You to bring justice and healing in Your perfect way.
Lastly, we declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment, You will condemn (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We speak life, restoration, and redemption over this marriage, believing that what the enemy intended for evil, God can turn for good (Genesis 50:20 WEB). We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who alone can make all things new. Amen.