We lift you up before the Lord with deep compassion, sister, for the heavy burdens you carry—the pain of a broken marriage, the weight of anxiety, and the uncertainty of your future. Your heart cries out for answers, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s will and wisdom through His Word. First, we must address something foundational: you have not mentioned the name of Jesus Christ in your request. It is only through His name that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we are saved. The Scriptures declare, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to reign in your heart. Without Christ, there is no true peace, no lasting hope, and no power to overcome the struggles you face. He alone is the Way, the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6).
Now, let us address the deep wounds of your marriage. The Word of God is clear about the sacredness of marriage and the roles of a husband and wife. *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:22-25, WEB). A husband is called to love his wife sacrificially, as Christ loved the Church, and to protect and cherish her. What you have described—aggression, disrespect, the threat of violence, and a refusal to stand up for you—is not the love of Christ. It is sinful and contrary to God’s design for marriage. Moreover, the influence of his parents in undermining your marriage is a violation of the biblical principle that a man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (Genesis 2:24). A husband who cannot separate from his parents to prioritize his wife is not fulfilling his God-given role.
We must also address the grave concern that your husband is not a believer. The Scriptures warn, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). Marriage to an unbeliever brings spiritual division, conflict, and pain, as you have experienced. While it is possible for an unbelieving spouse to be sanctified through a believing wife (1 Corinthians 7:14), this does not mean God calls us to remain in relationships where there is abuse, control, or a refusal to honor the covenant of marriage. Your husband’s actions—his aggression, his failure to protect you, and his submission to his parents over his wife—are not only emotionally damaging but sinful. You are not called to endure abuse in the name of submission. God does not require you to stay in a marriage where your safety, dignity, or spiritual well-being are at risk.
You have asked whether God wants you to reconcile or divorce. Let us be clear: reconciliation is only possible if there is true repentance. For your husband, this would mean turning away from his sinful behavior, submitting to Christ, and demonstrating fruit worthy of repentance—humility, love, and a willingness to honor you as his wife and to separate from his parents’ unhealthy influence. *"Bear fruit worthy of repentance!"* (Matthew 3:8, WEB). If he is unwilling to repent, if he continues to choose his parents over you, if he refuses to seek God and change his ways, then reconciliation is not possible. The Lord does not desire for you to live in bondage to fear, anxiety, or a loveless marriage. *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7, WEB). If your husband hardens his heart and proceeds with divorce, you must trust that God will lead you, even through this painful season. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB).
As for your anxiety and depression, we plead with you to cast these burdens upon the Lord. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). Your pain is real, but Jesus is your Healer and Comforter. Cling to Him. Spend time in His Word, pray without ceasing, and seek godly counsel from mature believers or a pastor. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we strongly urge you to find one where you can be nourished spiritually and surrounded by support.
Regarding your joblessness, we trust that God is your Provider. *"Therefore I tell you, don’t be anxious for your life: what you will eat, or what you will drink; nor yet for your body, what you will wear. Isn’t life more than food, and the body more than clothing? See the birds of the sky, that they don’t sow, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns. Your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren’t you of much more value than they?"* (Matthew 6:25-26, WEB). Your desire to care for your parents is honorable, and we pray that the Lord will open doors for employment that not only meets your financial needs but also allows you to be a blessing to your family. *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister, lifting her broken heart and weary spirit into Your hands. Lord Jesus, You see her pain—the betrayal, the fear, the anxiety, and the uncertainty of her future. We ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Comfort her as only You can, for You are the God of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3). Father, we pray for wisdom and clarity for her. If there is any hope for reconciliation in this marriage, let it come only through true repentance on her husband’s part. Softening his heart, Lord, and draw him to Yourself. But if he remains hardened, give our sister the strength to walk in obedience to You, even if it means releasing this marriage. Protect her from further harm, and heal the wounds of her heart.
Lord, we rebuke the spirits of anxiety, depression, and fear that have taken hold of her. By the power of Your Word, we command these spirits to flee in the name of Jesus Christ. Fill her instead with Your joy, Your hope, and Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Remind her that she is not defined by this marriage or by her past, but by her identity in Christ. She is Your beloved daughter, redeemed and cherished.
Father, we also lift up her need for employment. You know the financial burdens she carries and her desire to honor her parents. Open doors that no man can shut, Lord. Provide a job that not only meets her needs but allows her to be a blessing. Let her trust in You as her Provider, knowing that You will never leave her nor forsake her.
Finally, Lord, we pray that she would draw near to You in this season. Fill her with Your Word, surround her with godly community, and let her experience Your presence in a mighty way. If she has not yet surrendered her life to Jesus, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Let her know the depth of Your love and the power of Your resurrection in her life.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
