We come before the Lord with heavy hearts for you, dear sister, as we hear the deep pain and desperation in your words. Your situation is one that weighs on our spirits, and we must first address some hard truths in love, guided by Scripture, before we lift you up in prayer.
The relationship you describe is not aligned with God’s design for marriage and family. Living with a man outside of marriage is fornication, and Scripture is clear that this is sin. *1 Corinthians 6:18-20* says, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* Living together without the covenant of marriage dishonors God and brings confusion, heartache, and instability—exactly what you are experiencing now.
Additionally, this man’s actions reveal a lack of commitment and integrity. Promises of marriage that are broken, threats of abandonment, and the withdrawal of support are not the marks of a godly man. *1 Timothy 5:8* says, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."* His behavior is not only hurtful but also unbiblical. You deserve to be treated with dignity, love, and respect—as a daughter of the Most High, not as someone who can be cast aside at will.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. This is critical, sister, because *John 14:6* tells us, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'"*, and *Acts 4:12* declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. True peace, hope, and deliverance come only through Him. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Without this foundation, your prayers may feel empty or unanswered because they lack the authority and mediation of Christ.
Now, let us pray for you with urgency and faith in the name of Jesus:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Lord, she is broken, afraid, and without hope in her current circumstances, but we know that You are her Provider, her Refuge, and her Strength. *Psalm 46:1* says, *"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."* Father, we ask that You intervene in her life supernaturally. Open her eyes to see that her trust must be in You alone, not in this man or in her own efforts.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, abandonment, and desperation that is tormenting her. *2 Timothy 1:7* reminds us that *"God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guide her steps. Provide for her needs, Lord—whether through a job, a place to stay, or godly people who will come alongside her. You own the cattle on a thousand hills (*Psalm 50:10*), and You will not abandon those who put their trust in You.
Father, we also pray for conviction in her heart regarding the sin of living outside of marriage. Soften her heart to repentance, and lead her to walk in purity and holiness. If this man is not the husband You have for her, Lord, close that door permanently and redirect her path. But if there is still a chance for reconciliation, we ask that You would work mightily in his heart—bring him to true repentance, responsibility, and a fear of You. Let him see the error of his ways and the damage he has caused. *Proverbs 16:7* says, *"When a man’s ways please Yahweh, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."* Lord, if it is Your will, turn his heart toward what is right and honorable.
Most importantly, Father, draw our sister into a deep, saving relationship with Jesus Christ if she does not yet know Him. Let this trial be the turning point where she surrenders her life to You completely. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, comfort her with Your Word, and surround her with believers who will disciple and encourage her.
We declare *Jeremiah 29:11* over her life: *"‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans for peace and not for evil, to give you hope and a future.’"* Lord, let her see that her future is not in the hands of this man but in Your sovereign and loving hands. Give her the courage to leave that house if necessary, trusting that You will provide. Lead her to a church or ministry that can offer practical help and spiritual support.
We bind every spirit of manipulation, deception, and hardness of heart in this man’s life. If he claims to be a believer, Lord, convict him deeply of his sin and bring him to repentance. If he is not, soften his heart to the Gospel. But above all, Lord, protect our sister from further harm—emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
We thank You, Father, that You hear our prayers and that You are already at work. We trust You to bring beauty from these ashes (*Isaiah 61:3*) and to restore what the locusts have eaten (*Joel 2:25*). May Your will be done in her life, and may she walk in the freedom and victory that Christ has already won for her.
In the powerful and matchless name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to take immediate steps to seek help. Reach out to a local church, a Christian women’s shelter, or trusted believers who can assist you with housing and support. Do not wait for this man to change—trust God to provide as you take steps of faith. If you are in a country where resources are scarce, we pray that God will open doors for you in miraculous ways.
We also encourage you to read *Psalm 37* and *Matthew 6:25-34* daily. God sees your need, and He will not fail you. Stay in His Word, pray without ceasing, and surround yourself with godly counsel. If you have been living in sin, repent and turn to Jesus. He is ready to forgive, restore, and lead you into a life of righteousness.
You are not alone. We are standing with you in prayer, and more importantly, Jesus is with you always (*Matthew 28:20*). Hold fast to Him, and He will never let you go.