We hear your heart’s deep desire to honor God in your pursuit of marriage, and we stand with you in seeking His perfect will. First, let us affirm that your longing for a wife is not wrong—God Himself said, *"It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him"* (Genesis 2:18). However, the way we pursue this desire must align with His Word and His timing.
You are right to recognize that God is the ultimate Provider, and His ways often differ from our own. The frustration you feel when human efforts—apps, agencies, or even well-meaning plans—seem to fail may be His way of redirecting you to trust Him more fully. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6). This includes the path to marriage.
Let us address a few key truths from Scripture:
1. **Submission to God’s Will Requires Patience and Faith**
You ask how to submit to His will rather than your own. Submission begins with surrender—laying down your timeline, your methods, and even your anxieties at His feet. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean He will give you what you want when you want it, but that as you delight in Him, your desires will align with His. Are you willing to wait for His "divine arrangement," even if it looks different from what you imagined?
2. **Marriage Must Be Built on Christ**
If you are seeking a wife, she must be a fellow believer—someone who shares your faith and commitment to God. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). This is not about perfection but about a shared foundation in Christ. Are you praying for a godly woman who loves the Lord above all else?
3. **Your Walk with God Attracts the Right Person**
You mention wanting people to be naturally attracted to you. While physical or social appeal matters, what draws a godly woman most is a man who walks closely with God. *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30). The same is true for men—your character, integrity, and devotion to Christ will make you attractive to the right woman. Are you cultivating these qualities daily?
4. **Rebuking the Spirit of Frustration and Self-Reliance**
We sense a struggle in your words—a tension between trusting God and feeling like you must "make it happen." The Bible warns against relying on our own strength: *"Unless Yahweh builds the house, they labor in vain who build it"* (Psalm 127:1). If you are trying to force a relationship through worldly means (apps, agencies, or even manipulation), you may be operating outside of God’s design. We rebuke the spirit of frustration and self-reliance in Jesus’ name. Instead, we declare that God is your Provider, and His timing is perfect.
5. **The Name of Jesus is Essential**
We notice that your request does not mention the name of Jesus, yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12). Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6), and every prayer must be offered in His name. If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life to Christ, for apart from Him, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother who seeks Your will for marriage. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would purify them, aligning them with Your perfect plan. Teach him to trust You fully, to wait patiently, and to walk in obedience to Your Word.
Father, we ask that You would prepare his future wife, wherever she may be, and draw her heart to You. Let their paths cross in Your perfect timing, not by human effort alone, but by Your divine arrangement. Remove any spirit of frustration, impatience, or self-reliance, and replace it with faith and peace.
Lord, we declare that this brother is not alone. You are his Provider, his Guide, and his Strength. Help him to seek You first above all else, knowing that as he does, You will add all these things unto him (Matthew 6:33). May he be a man after Your own heart, and may his future marriage bring glory to Your name.
We pray for godly wisdom in his interactions, that he would honor You in how he treats women, and that he would not compromise his standards for the sake of companionship. Guard his heart from temptation, and let him walk in purity and holiness.
Father, we thank You for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your goodness and Your faithfulness to complete the work You have begun in him. May he experience Your peace as he waits on You, and may he rejoice in the assurance that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord through prayer, fasting, and time in His Word. Join a local church if you haven’t already, for it is often in the community of believers that God brings people together. Serve faithfully where you are, and trust that God sees your heart. *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:5). Your wife is out there, and God will bring her to you in His perfect time. Until then, keep your eyes on Him.
