StandingForChristAndMyWife
Disciple of Prayer
Please pray urgently for my marriage. I am on the verge of tears as I write this.
Over the past few years, my wife and I have experienced increasing distance, avoidance, and unresolved conflict. I have repeatedly tried to raise concerns calmly, ask for repair, and pursue unity, but my pain has often gone unheard until I reached breaking point. Recently, after we finally had a conversation, I shared the full weight of what I have been carrying, then straight after my wife revealed she is planning a solo holiday without consulting me. Since the talk, she has been continuing daily routines, laughter, packing, and social engagement as if nothing has changed. This has deeply shaken me and made me feel dishonoured, abandoned, and pushed out of the marriage while I am still standing for covenant and restoration.
I am grieving not only the loss of emotional intimacy, but the breakdown of trust, safety, and shared decision-making in our home. I feel pushed out of the marriage while still standing for covenant, unity, and healing. There have been repeated moments where major choices were made independently, without discussion or agreement, leaving me feeling dishonoured and sidelined as a husband.
I am also asking prayer regarding the influence of outside voices. My wife has grown increasingly close to friends who promote independence and self-focus in ways that undermine accountability, covenant, and respect for marriage. Their encouragement has coincided with her withdrawing from repair, prioritising external validation, and making decisions without coming to me. I feel these influences are pulling her further away from God’s order for marriage rather than toward unity and humility. She now views anything that involves convicting, God's truth in marriage as 'being blamed'. She was dismissive during the situation, just said 'you need therapy', and refusing to understand her contributions to the state of the marriage. I am not getting therapy but using it as a way to deflect her actions in the marriage felt cold-hearted.
Please pray that God would bring truth into the light, expose any deception, confusion, or fear, and soften both of our hearts. I am asking for protection over my mind, emotions, and faith during this time, as I feel deeply wounded, disoriented, and tempted toward despair. I need strength to stand without becoming reactive, bitter, or withdrawn.
Please ask God to restore honour, mutual submission, and proper order in our home; to heal wounds that were never fully addressed; and to bring my wife into clarity about covenant, accountability, and unity. I am praying that any voices or influences that undermine our marriage would lose their power, and that God would surround us with wisdom, truth, and godly counsel.
Please pray for reconciliation, repentance where needed, and a rebuilding of trust that is rooted in God’s will, not avoidance or performance. I am standing for my marriage, but I need God’s intervention, covering, and peace to endure this season.
Please pray for revelation of the open doors that she has in her life that is allowing men and women to speak and have an opinion on our marriage.
Thank you for praying.
Over the past few years, my wife and I have experienced increasing distance, avoidance, and unresolved conflict. I have repeatedly tried to raise concerns calmly, ask for repair, and pursue unity, but my pain has often gone unheard until I reached breaking point. Recently, after we finally had a conversation, I shared the full weight of what I have been carrying, then straight after my wife revealed she is planning a solo holiday without consulting me. Since the talk, she has been continuing daily routines, laughter, packing, and social engagement as if nothing has changed. This has deeply shaken me and made me feel dishonoured, abandoned, and pushed out of the marriage while I am still standing for covenant and restoration.
I am grieving not only the loss of emotional intimacy, but the breakdown of trust, safety, and shared decision-making in our home. I feel pushed out of the marriage while still standing for covenant, unity, and healing. There have been repeated moments where major choices were made independently, without discussion or agreement, leaving me feeling dishonoured and sidelined as a husband.
I am also asking prayer regarding the influence of outside voices. My wife has grown increasingly close to friends who promote independence and self-focus in ways that undermine accountability, covenant, and respect for marriage. Their encouragement has coincided with her withdrawing from repair, prioritising external validation, and making decisions without coming to me. I feel these influences are pulling her further away from God’s order for marriage rather than toward unity and humility. She now views anything that involves convicting, God's truth in marriage as 'being blamed'. She was dismissive during the situation, just said 'you need therapy', and refusing to understand her contributions to the state of the marriage. I am not getting therapy but using it as a way to deflect her actions in the marriage felt cold-hearted.
Please pray that God would bring truth into the light, expose any deception, confusion, or fear, and soften both of our hearts. I am asking for protection over my mind, emotions, and faith during this time, as I feel deeply wounded, disoriented, and tempted toward despair. I need strength to stand without becoming reactive, bitter, or withdrawn.
Please ask God to restore honour, mutual submission, and proper order in our home; to heal wounds that were never fully addressed; and to bring my wife into clarity about covenant, accountability, and unity. I am praying that any voices or influences that undermine our marriage would lose their power, and that God would surround us with wisdom, truth, and godly counsel.
Please pray for reconciliation, repentance where needed, and a rebuilding of trust that is rooted in God’s will, not avoidance or performance. I am standing for my marriage, but I need God’s intervention, covering, and peace to endure this season.
Please pray for revelation of the open doors that she has in her life that is allowing men and women to speak and have an opinion on our marriage.
Thank you for praying.
