We hear your heartache and the deep desire to reconcile with your loved one, and we stand with you in seeking God’s wisdom and healing in this situation. First, we want to affirm that your obedience to the Holy Spirit’s conviction not to attend the wedding was right and faithful. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, instituted by God from the beginning (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). The Bible also explicitly condemns homosexual relationships as sin (Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10), and as believers, we are called to uphold God’s truth with love, even when it is difficult or costly.
Your loved one’s choice to enter into a same-sex marriage is not aligned with God’s design, and his hurt and withdrawal are understandable reactions to your stand for righteousness. Yet we know that God’s heart is for repentance, restoration, and reconciliation—not just between us and Him, but between His children when possible. The apostle Paul writes, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18). This does not mean compromising truth, but it does mean extending grace, patience, and love even when it is not returned.
We must also gently address the reality that true reconciliation cannot occur unless your loved one is willing to acknowledge the sin in his life and turn toward God’s forgiveness. Until then, your efforts to restore the relationship may be met with resistance, as the enemy seeks to keep him bound in deception. But we serve a God who is greater than any stronghold (2 Corinthians 10:4-5), and we can trust Him to work even in the silence.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who longs for restoration with their loved one. Lord, we thank You for their faithfulness to Your Word, even when it cost them dearly. We ask that You would soften the heart of their loved one, that Your Spirit would convict them of sin and draw them to repentance. Father, we know that only You can break the chains of deception and bring true healing. We pray for wisdom for our brother or sister in Christ—give them the words to speak, the patience to wait, and the love to persist in prayer. Guard their heart from bitterness or resentment, and help them to trust in Your timing.
Lord, we also pray for protection over their loved one. Shield them from the lies of the enemy that tell them they are beyond Your grace. Remind them of Your unconditional love and the freedom found in Christ. If it is Your will, Father, restore this relationship in a way that glorifies You. But above all, we ask that Your perfect will be done, even if it means waiting or accepting that reconciliation may not come as we hope. Strengthen our brother or sister in their faith, and help them to find peace in You alone. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
In the meantime, continue to reach out in love, not to condone sin, but to reflect Christ’s heart. Your texts may not receive a response, but they are seeds planted in faith. Consider writing a letter—one that lovingly but clearly communicates your care for their soul, your grief over their choices, and your hope for their restoration to God. Share the gospel with them, reminding them that *"if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Pray for opportunities to speak truth in love, and trust God to work in ways you cannot see.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are there areas where bitterness, pride, or self-righteousness may have taken root? Confess these to the Lord and ask Him to fill you with His love and humility. Remember, our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of darkness (Ephesians 6:12). Stand firm in the armor of God, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9).
Lastly, if your loved one is open to it, invite them to church or to study the Bible with you—not as a debate, but as an act of love. Pray that God would open their eyes to the truth and that they would experience the transforming power of the gospel. Until then, keep praying, keep loving, and keep trusting in the Lord, who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
