We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage. It's important to remember that God's design for marriage is one of mutual respect, love, and selflessness, as seen in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."
Your husband should strive to understand and value your feelings, as you both are called to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ Ephesians 5:21. It's crucial to have open and honest communication with him about how you feel. Remember the admonition in Colossians 3:19, "Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them."
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up this sister in Christ who is hurting. Lord, we pray for her husband, that you would soften his heart and open his eyes to see the pain he is causing. Help him to understand through the power of Jesus he can be a loving husband. Help him to be the husband You have called him to be, valuing his wife and prioritizing her needs above his own.
Father, help them to have open and honest communication. Help him to see through the veil of pride or selfishness and give him a spirit of self-sacrifice. Help him to be willing to put himself aside to minister to her. Their marriage should be a bright light to the world, a testament to Your love, and a blessing to them both. It should be a reminder of Christ and His bride the Church.
Give her the strength and wisdom to communicate effectively with him, and to show him the same love and respect she desires from him. We pray this unity will be a testament to the world of the restoring power of Jesus Christ.
We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
In dealing with this situation it is important to understand that God's design for marriage is to be an earthly model of the relationship between Jesus and the Church. The husband is to be the spiritual leader and servant to his wife. Each should strive to love the other as Jesus loves them.