Prayer For ###

[Gale]

I am so ashamed my daughter is getting ready to have another baby; she already has a one yr old.

I have been so unhappy since she got pregnant, and all I do is worry; they can't afford this baby.

I feel like their money problems have fallen on me.

The baby daddy has money but takes advances of the fact he knows I help, so he does nothing. I don't have the heart to let my daughter down, and he knows this. Please pray for me; I need help with the money, stress, and full of anger and so depressed.

 

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May God hear your request and grant it according to his will. In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[MonicainNorway]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[FROMWOUNDEDNESS]

1. You have NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED of. You have no control over the choices your ### has made

You can control how you help them, avoid reinforcing their behaviors by providing monetarily
I say this know that I have four kids, who don't have any presents under the tree yet. But they are loved, have food on the table and that is ALL they need. I am sure if your ### is under employed she is receiving or qualifies for food stamps and medicaid. This child has food and medical coverage. Clothing can be bought second hand, toys too. We live in a society that says more, more more. I am glad that you want to support, help your ### but you've also admitted that they aren't doing their part because you are doing it for them. Enabling others cripples them....and often for a life time. I know this is hard, but you have to step back...at least a little. Pay for things (bills, diapers) but don't send cash unless you are intentionally wanting your ### to have a gift for herself. If she is like me it will go to a bill anyway. But you have to foster independence. They will be better parents, adults in the long run. And here's a thought....she'll hate it, but appreciate it later. Take a finance class together.....wish I had, maybe we'd be better off in the long run. Ok.........you so didn't ask for my opinion......and I know EVERYONE has an opinion. Just some thoughts for you to consider, while I and others pray over your BEAUTIFUL family.

Only truly important thing is that you kick that demon of shame to the curb, and start asking God to guide you in every decision you make with those grandbabies.

Oh, another thought, if they aren't in the same house....get online and help your ### file child support. It's easy, it's his responsibility, and it's 18 years of less fighting about what his children need. It may cause some initial strife, but prevents more in the long run.