We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this painful and trying season. The betrayal and emotional abuse you are enduring are deeply grievous, and we mourn with you over the brokenness in your home. The Scriptures remind us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and calls us to love, honor, and cherish our spouses as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Yet we also know that sin has twisted what was meant to be holy, and the enemy seeks to destroy families through deception, selfishness, and hardness of heart.
Your wife’s actions—her emotional cruelty, her secrecy with other men, and her demand for you to leave—are not only hurtful but sinful. The Lord commands us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to guard our hearts and marriages with purity. Her conversations with other men, especially in detail about your family and shared life, are a violation of the covenant of marriage. Proverbs 6:32 warns that *"he who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* While we do not know if physical infidelity has occurred, the emotional and relational betrayal is already destructive. We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division at work in this situation, and we declare that no weapon formed against your family will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Yet even in this, we must examine our own hearts before the Lord. Have there been ways you have failed to love her as Christ loves the Church? Have there been words or actions that have contributed to the brokenness? This is not to excuse her sin but to ensure that we are right before God, repenting where necessary and walking in humility. The Lord calls husbands to dwell with their wives *"according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered"* (1 Peter 3:7). If there has been neglect, harshness, or a lack of spiritual leadership, now is the time to seek the Lord’s forgiveness and wisdom for restoration.
That said, her demand for you to leave the home is a serious matter. While we pray for reconciliation, we also urge you to seek godly counsel—whether from your pastor or a biblical counselor—to navigate this wisely. If she is unrepentant and determined to pursue sin, the Scriptures do allow for separation in cases of abandonment or persistent unfaithfulness (1 Corinthians 7:15). However, this must be done with great care, prayer, and accountability, not in haste or bitterness. Your primary concern must be the well-being of your children and your own walk with the Lord. Do not retaliate, do not speak in anger, but *"if possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18).
We also grieve with you over the impact this is having on your children. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and the instability in your home is a direct attack on their security and faith. Yet we declare that the Lord is their defender and their shield (Psalm 119:114). We pray that He would surround them with His peace, protect their hearts from confusion, and draw them closer to Himself in this storm. Teach them to forgive, to trust in the Lord, and to see His faithfulness even when people fail them.
Brother, you have done well to cry out to Jesus—He is the only one who can save your family. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that hearts can be softened, sins forgiven, and marriages restored. We stand with you in declaring that *"what God has joined together, let no man separate"* (Mark 10:9). Yet we also acknowledge that true repentance must come from your wife’s heart. You cannot force her to turn back, but you can continue to love her as Christ loves, pray for her salvation, and trust the Lord with the outcome.
Here is our prayer for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother and his family in this time of deep brokenness. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the emotional abuse he is enduring. You know the secrets of the heart and the deception that has taken root. We ask You to expose every hidden thing, to bring conviction where there is sin, and to break the chains of hardness and rebellion in his wife’s heart. Softens her, Lord—draw her to repentance and back to the covenant she made before You.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of adultery, division, and emotional abuse in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against this marriage will prosper. We declare that You are a God who restores, who redeems, and who heals. If it is Your will, Lord, restore this marriage for Your glory. Give our brother the wisdom to know how to respond—whether to stay or to separate temporarily, let it be done in Your timing and Your way. Guard his heart from bitterness, his words from anger, and his actions from retaliation. Clothe him in Your armor, that he may stand firm in this spiritual battle.
Lord, we lift up their children to You. Protect their hearts, Father. Let them see Your faithfulness even in this storm. Draw them to Yourself, and let this trial drive them to depend on You. Surround them with godly influences and cover them with Your peace.
Father, we ask for supernatural intervention. Where there is no hope in the natural, we trust in Your power to do the impossible. If this marriage can be saved, save it, Lord. But even if it cannot, we pray that You would be glorified, that our brother would walk in purity and faith, and that his wife would come to know the depth of her need for You.
Strengthen him, Lord. Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may respond in love, truth, and wisdom. Provide for him financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Let him not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21).
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen."*
Brother, stand firm. The Lord is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Seek His face daily, immerse yourself in His Word, and surround yourself with godly men who can support and pray for you. If your wife is unwilling to repent, you must still honor the Lord in all you do—trusting Him with the future, whether that means restoration or a new path. But do not lose hope. Our God is in the business of resurrection. What is dead, He can make alive. Keep praying, keep believing, and keep walking in obedience. The battle belongs to the Lord.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
