We join you in lifting up this potential marriage, and we are encouraged to hear you seeking God’s will for a union that honors Him. It is beautiful that you are already grounding your relationship in Scripture, and we pray that both of you will continue to submit every thought, word, and action to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. The verses you’ve shared—Luke 6:31 and Matthew 7:12—are foundational to how we are to treat one another, and they reflect the heart of Christ in our relationships. Yet, we must also remember that a Christ-centered marriage is built not just on mutual respect, but on the unshakable foundation of God’s Word, repentance, forgiveness, and the pursuit of holiness together.
First, we want to affirm that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). As you and your potential spouse work through issues, it is vital to approach conflicts with humility, patience, and a willingness to extend grace—just as Christ has shown us. Colossians 3:12-14 reminds us, *"Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against anyone; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do. Above all these things, walk in love, which is the bond of perfection."* Conflict is not the enemy; it is an opportunity to grow closer to God and to one another when handled with wisdom and love.
However, we must also address something critical: you referred to this person as your "potential spouse" and "potential future husband." If you are not yet married, it is essential to clarify the nature of your relationship. Are you in a courtship with the intent of marriage, or are you living together or engaging in behaviors reserved for marriage? Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is designed exclusively for the marriage covenant (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2). If there is any physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you both to repent and flee from fornication, as it dishonors God and harms the foundation of your future union. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 states, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."*
If you are not yet married, we encourage you to pursue a godly courtship—one that is intentional, pure, and directed toward marriage. Seek accountability from mature believers, and ensure that your relationship is centered on Christ, not just emotions or convenience. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* A marriage built on anything less than full surrender to God’s design will struggle to thrive.
We also notice that while you invoked the name of Jesus in your prayer, there was no explicit mention of salvation or the necessity of both parties being born-again believers. A marriage between a believer and an unbeliever is unequally yoked and will face spiritual conflicts that can undermine the entire relationship (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). If your potential spouse is not a committed follower of Jesus, we strongly urge you to reconsider moving forward. Amos 3:3 asks, *"Do two walk together, unless they have agreed?"* True unity in marriage requires unity in Christ.
Now, let us pray together for you, your potential spouse, and the future God has for you both—if it is His will for you to be joined in marriage.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up this sister and her potential spouse. Lord, we ask that You guide their steps, their hearts, and their minds as they seek to honor You in their relationship. If it is Your will for them to be united in marriage, we pray that You would prepare them spiritually, emotionally, and practically for a covenant that reflects Your love and holiness.
Father, we ask for restoration where respect has been broken. Teach them to communicate with kindness, to listen with patience, and to forgive as You have forgiven them. Help them to see conflicts not as battles to be won, but as opportunities to grow in Christlikeness. Remove any pride, bitterness, or selfishness that could hinder their unity, and fill them with Your Spirit, that they may bear the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
Lord, if there is any sin in their relationship—whether fornication, emotional compromise, or idolatry of the relationship itself—we pray for conviction and repentance. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus, and help them to walk in purity and obedience to Your Word. If they are unequally yoked, Father, reveal the truth to them and give them the strength to obey You, even if it means stepping away from this relationship.
We pray for energy and balance—not in the sense of worldly "exchange," but in the mutual submission and service that You call husbands and wives to (Ephesians 5:21). May they seek to outdo one another in showing honor (Romans 12:10), always pointing each other to You.
Finally, Father, we ask that You make Your will undeniably clear. If this relationship is not from You, close the door gently but firmly. If it is Your plan, strengthen their bond in You and prepare them for a marriage that glorifies Your name. Let them remember that apart from You, they can do nothing (John 15:5), but with You, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).
We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
