We hear your heartache and the deep love you have for the one you call your partner, and we come before the Lord with your burden, lifting it up in prayer. First, we must gently but firmly address the foundation of your relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you and your partner are not married, we must call this what it is: fornication, which the Bible warns against in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
If you are not married, we urge you to repent of this sin and seek God’s forgiveness, for He is faithful and just to forgive us when we confess our sins (1 John 1:9). If your desire is to honor God with your relationship, we strongly encourage you to pursue marriage, as it is the only context in which a romantic relationship is blessed by God. If marriage is not your intention or his, then this relationship is not aligned with God’s will, and we must pray for wisdom and strength to walk away, no matter how painful that may be.
If you are married, we stand with you in prayer for restoration, healing, and unity. Marriage is a beautiful but challenging covenant, and it requires both of you to submit to God’s design for it. Ephesians 5:22-33 outlines the roles of husbands and wives, calling wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. If there is strife in your marriage, we must examine whether pride, selfishness, or unrepentant sin is at the root. James 4:1-2 tells us, "What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel."
Let us pray together for you and your relationship, whether it is a marriage in need of healing or a relationship that must be surrendered to God’s will:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister and her relationship. Lord, You see the pain, the love, and the confusion in her heart, and we ask that You would move mightily in this situation. If this relationship is not within Your will, Father, we pray for conviction and repentance. Give her the strength to flee from sin and the wisdom to seek Your best for her life. If this is a marriage in distress, we ask for Your healing touch. Soften hearts, Lord, and help both of them to lay down their pride, their anger, and their selfishness. Teach them to love one another as You have loved them, with patience, kindness, and humility.
We pray against the enemy’s schemes to divide and destroy, for we know that Your desire is for unity and peace in marriages and relationships that honor You. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and let Your Word be a lamp to their feet. Help them to communicate with love and respect, to forgive one another as You have forgiven them, and to seek Your face together. If there is unconfessed sin, bring it to light and grant them the grace to repent and turn back to You.
Father, we also pray for this sister’s heart. Comfort her in her pain, and remind her that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Give her the courage to trust You, even when the path ahead is unclear. Whether You are calling her to fight for her marriage or to walk away from a relationship that dishonors You, help her to surrender her will to Yours. Let her find her identity and her hope in You alone, for You are the God who restores and redeems.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, for it is only through Him that we have access to You, and it is only by His blood that we are made right with You. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can walk alongside you during this time. Surround yourself with believers who will pray for you and hold you accountable to God’s Word. Remember, God’s plans for you are good, and He desires to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust in Him, lean not on your own understanding, and in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, we urge you to do so today, for He is the only way to the Father (John 14:6). Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). This is the foundation upon which all other decisions must be built.