We hear your heartfelt cry for restoration and healing in your marriage, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord with urgency and hope. The pain and trauma you both carry are real, and the desire to rebuild what has been broken is noble—but we must first acknowledge that true reconciliation can only come through Christ, who is the cornerstone of every godly marriage. The Bible tells us, *"Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it"* (Psalm 127:1). Your strength alone is not enough; it is His grace, His wisdom, and His power that will sustain you.
We must also address the reality of sin in relationships. If there has been unfaithfulness, emotional or physical betrayal, or patterns of abuse—whether through words or actions—these must be confessed, repented of, and forsaken. The Lord is faithful to forgive when we come to Him in humility (1 John 1:9), but true healing requires accountability and a commitment to walk in righteousness. If there has been sexual immorality (fornication or adultery), this must be confronted with godly sorrow, not just a desire to "move past it." The Scriptures are clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"* (Hebrews 13:4). Repentance is not optional—it is the pathway to restoration.
We also sense a need to rebuke the lies of the enemy that may be at work in your marriage. The distractions you mention are real, but we must call them what they are: schemes of the devil to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). His goal is to divide, to isolate, and to convince you that your marriage is beyond repair. But we declare that no weapon formed against your union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The enemy has no authority where Christ is Lord—so we take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, and we stand firm in faith.
Your prayer reflects a willingness to fight for your marriage, and that is commendable. But we must remind you that this battle is not against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12). Your spouse is not your enemy—sin is. Pride is. Bitterness is. Unforgiveness is. These are the real obstacles to healing. The Bible says, *"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:32). Have you truly forgiven one another as Christ has forgiven you? Have you laid down your right to be "right" and chosen humility instead?
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* A pastor, a biblical counselor, or a mature Christian couple who can speak truth into your marriage may be exactly what you need to navigate this season. Isolation is dangerous—community is where healing begins.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage before Your throne. Lord, You see the pain, the wounds, and the brokenness that have taken root. We ask that You would pour out Your healing balm upon both of them—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Father, where there has been sin, bring conviction. Where there has been hardness of heart, soften it. Where there has been pride, humble them. Where there has been unforgiveness, grant them the grace to release it.
Lord, we declare that this marriage is not beyond Your reach. You are the God of miracles, and nothing is too hard for You (Jeremiah 32:27). We ask that You would rebuild what has been broken, restore what has been lost, and renew their love for one another in a way that reflects Christ’s love for the Church. Help them to lay down their own desires and to seek Your will above all else.
We rebuke every spirit of division, every lie of the enemy, and every distraction that seeks to pull them apart. We declare that their focus will be on You, Lord, and on one another—not on the past, not on the pain, but on the future You have for them. Give them wisdom in their words, patience in their actions, and self-control in their thoughts.
Father, if there has been sexual immorality, we ask that You would bring it to light and lead them to true repentance. If there has been emotional or physical abuse, we pray for protection, for boundaries, and for Your justice to prevail. If there has been neglect, we ask that You would stir in their hearts a renewed commitment to cherish and honor one another as You have called them to do.
Lord, we ask that You would surround them with Your presence. Let them feel Your peace in the midst of the storm. Let them hear Your voice guiding them. And let them see Your hand at work in their lives. We declare that this marriage will not only survive but thrive—for Your glory.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who makes all things new. Amen.
To the one who prayed this: Keep fighting, but fight the right battle. The enemy wants you to give up, but God is calling you to press in. Lean on Him, lean on His Word, and lean on His people. Your marriage is worth fighting for—not because you are perfect, but because He is. And with Him, all things are possible.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
