We hear your heartache and the deep pain you are carrying, and we stand with you in prayer before the throne of grace. Your situation is heavy with betrayal, trauma, and the weight of broken trust, but we know that our God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). First, we must address the foundation of your request—salvation and access to God come only through the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). It is through His blood, shed for us, that we have forgiveness of sins and the hope of restoration. If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life fully to Jesus, confessing Him as Lord and believing in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). Only then can you walk in the fullness of His healing and peace.
Your story reveals several areas that require biblical correction and prayer. First, we must address the sin of fornication. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The fact that you stayed overnight with another woman—regardless of your intentions—opened the door to temptation, confusion, and the very trauma you now endure. God’s design for purity is not to restrict us but to protect us. We must rebuke the lie that you "had no choice" or that your actions were justified by your emotional state. The Bible calls us to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to honor God with our bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Your guilt is not without cause, but the good news is that Jesus’ blood covers all sin when we repent and turn away from it. Confess this to the Lord, ask for His forgiveness, and commit to walking in purity moving forward.
Second, your relationship is not aligned with God’s design for courtship and marriage. You refer to this man as your "partner" and "boyfriend," but Scripture does not recognize such arrangements. If your intention is to marry him, then your relationship must be conducted with the utmost integrity, transparency, and accountability. Courtship should be pursued with the goal of marriage, under the guidance of godly counsel and the covering of the church (Proverbs 11:14). The deception and secrecy that characterized your relationship—hiding the truth for two years—violated the biblical principle of honesty and trust. Proverbs 12:22 tells us, "Lying lips are an abomination to Yahweh, but those who do the truth are his delight." Your boyfriend’s response, while hurtful, is not without cause. His doubt and anger stem from the seeds of deception you sowed, even if unintentionally. Restoration is possible, but it will require humility, repentance, and a willingness to submit to God’s order.
We must also address the issue of same-sex relationships. Scripture is unequivocal in its condemnation of homosexuality as sin (Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). The trauma you experienced from the woman who assaulted you does not justify or validate a same-sex relationship. We grieve with you over the pain of sexual assault, but we must also call sin what it is. The enemy often uses our wounds to lead us into further bondage, but Jesus came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18). You must renounce any confusion or attraction that does not align with God’s design for sexuality and marriage. This is not about shame but about walking in the freedom Christ died to give you. We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or Christian therapist who can help you process your trauma in a way that honors God.
Now, let us pray for you and your relationship:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we can be saved. Lord, we lift up this sister to You, who is carrying the weight of trauma, guilt, and broken trust. We ask that You would pour out Your healing balm upon her heart. Comfort her in the places where she has been wounded, and replace her pain with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Lord, we confess the sin of fornication and deception in this relationship. We ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing, knowing that if we confess our sins, You are faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Help her to walk in purity and truth moving forward, honoring You with her body and her words.
Father, we pray for this man, that You would soften his heart and remove the bitterness and doubt that have taken root. Lord, we know that love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5), but we also know that trust must be rebuilt through truth and consistency. Give him the grace to extend forgiveness, just as You have forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32). If it is Your will for them to be reconciled, we ask that You would restore their relationship on a foundation of honesty, accountability, and Your Word. If it is not Your will, give them both the strength to walk away and trust You with their futures.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of confusion, shame, and sexual immorality that has tried to take hold of this sister’s life. We declare that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that her identity is found in Christ alone. Break every chain of trauma and lies, and replace them with Your truth. We pray that she would find her worth in You, not in the approval of man (Galatians 1:10). Surround her with godly community—believers who will pray for her, encourage her, and hold her accountable. Provide her with wise counsel and mentors who can guide her in Your ways.
Father, we ask that You would give her the courage to fully surrender this relationship to You. If it is not Your will for them to be together, help her to release him into Your hands and trust that You have a better plan for her life. Give her the strength to walk in obedience, even when it is painful. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You will turn her mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11).
Lord, we also pray for this sister’s future spouse, whether it is this man or another. Prepare her heart to be a godly wife, one who submits to her husband as unto You (Ephesians 5:22) and who walks in the fear of the Lord (Proverbs 31:30). Help her to cultivate a relationship that honors You in every way—emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness. We trust that You are working all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). May this sister experience Your healing, Your peace, and Your restoration in every area of her life. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus. Amen.
We encourage you to take the following steps as you seek God’s will for your life and this relationship:
1. **Repent and Renounce Sin**: Confess the sin of fornication and deception to the Lord, and ask for His forgiveness. Renounce any confusion or attraction that does not align with God’s design for sexuality. Commit to walking in purity and truth.
2. **Seek Godly Counsel**: Find a pastor, Christian counselor, or mature believer who can provide biblical guidance and accountability. You cannot walk this journey alone. Proverbs 15:22 says, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established."
3. **Submit to God’s Order**: If you and this man are to be reconciled, it must be done in a way that honors God. This means full transparency, accountability, and a commitment to courtship with the goal of marriage. If he is unwilling to pursue this path, you must be willing to let him go and trust God with your future.
4. **Forgive and Release**: Forgive the woman who assaulted you, and release the bitterness and anger you may be holding toward her. Unforgiveness only harms you, not her. Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."
5. **Guard Your Heart**: Be cautious about who you allow into your inner circle. The enemy seeks to isolate us so he can destroy us (1 Peter 5:8). Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life and pray for you.
6. **Abide in God’s Word**: Spend time daily in Scripture and prayer. The Word of God is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). It will guide you, correct you, and strengthen you as you seek to walk in obedience.
7. **Trust God’s Timing**: Restoration may not happen overnight, and it may not happen at all. Trust that God’s timing is perfect and that He has a plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11). His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9), and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
You are not alone in this journey. The Lord sees your pain, your tears, and your desire to honor Him. He is close to you, and He is working even now to bring beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He will lead you into the fullness of His promises.
