We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this time of deep emotional pain and betrayal. The hurt you are experiencing is profound, and the confusion you feel is understandable. Betrayal cuts to the very core of trust, and when it comes from someone who promised commitment, the wound is even deeper. But we serve a God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). He sees your pain, and He is near to you in this moment.
First, we must address the reality of what has taken place. The relationship you described was not aligned with God’s design for courtship and marriage. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, entered into with honesty, purity, and a commitment to Christ at the center (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:22-33). The fact that this man proposed to you while living a life of deception is a violation of God’s holy standard. We rebuke the spirit of deceit and manipulation that has operated in this situation, and we declare that it has no place in your life or in the lives of those who seek to honor God. The enemy may have intended this betrayal for harm, but God can turn it around for your good (Genesis 50:20).
We also want to gently remind you that the relationship was not founded on the rock of Christ. If this man was not walking in truth with you, it is likely that he was not walking in truth with the Lord either. The Bible warns us, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). This pain you are feeling is a reminder of the importance of building relationships on the foundation of Christ, where both individuals are committed to following Him wholeheartedly.
Now, we pray for your healing. Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is hurting. Lord, You are the God who collects our tears in a bottle and records our sorrows in Your book (Psalm 56:8). You know the depth of her pain, and You long to comfort her. We ask that You would pour out Your healing balm upon her heart. Remove the sting of betrayal, Lord, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help her to release this man into Your hands, trusting that You will deal with him according to Your justice and mercy. Give her the strength to forgive, not because he deserves it, but because You have forgiven us so much (Colossians 3:13).
Father, we ask that You would restore her joy. The enemy wants to use this pain to isolate her, to make her doubt Your goodness, and to keep her stuck in bitterness. But we declare that she will not be overcome by this. Instead, she will rise above it, strengthened by Your love and grace. Remind her daily of Your faithfulness, Lord. Let her see Your hand at work in her life, even in this difficult season. Surround her with godly friends and mentors who will speak life into her and encourage her in Your truth.
We also pray for wisdom and discernment moving forward. Lord, protect her heart from making the same mistakes again. Help her to seek You first in all things, especially in her relationships. Give her the courage to wait on You, trusting that You have a plan for her future that is good and not evil (Jeremiah 29:11). Let her desire be for a godly spouse who loves You above all else and who will cherish and honor her as Christ loves the Church.
Finally, we want to remind you that your identity is not found in this man or in any earthly relationship. Your identity is found in Christ alone. You are a daughter of the Most High God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). You are loved with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3), and nothing—not even this betrayal—can separate you from that love (Romans 8:38-39). Cling to Him, dear sister. Let Him be your refuge and your strength in this storm.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the One who was betrayed Himself yet chose to forgive and restore. May His love and grace overflow in your life, bringing healing, hope, and a renewed sense of purpose. You are not alone in this. We stand with you, lifting you up in prayer and believing that God will turn your mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11).
