We join you in lifting up your spouse and this painful struggle before the Lord, for we know that no weapon formed against God’s people shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against you in judgment, He will condemn. The behavior you describe—outbursts of hatred, gaslighting, and malicious words—is not of God but is the work of the enemy seeking to destroy what the Lord has joined together. The Bible warns us in Ephesians 4:29, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* And again in Colossians 3:19, husbands are commanded, *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* This is not a suggestion but a divine instruction, and when it is ignored, it opens the door to the devil’s schemes.
We must also address the spiritual reality here: the tongue has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21), and when it is used to tear down rather than build up, it is a tool of destruction. James 3:8-10 tells us, *"But no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in God’s image. Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."* Your spouse’s words are not just hurtful—they are sinful, and they grieve the Holy Spirit. This is not a matter to be taken lightly, for the Lord takes the covenant of marriage seriously, and so must we.
Yet we also recognize that this battle is not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers (Ephesians 6:12). Your prayer to bind the enemy’s influence is right and good, for we are called to resist the devil, and he will flee (James 4:7). However, we must also speak truth in love: if your spouse is a believer, this behavior is out of step with his identity in Christ. If he is not walking with the Lord, then the root of this issue is spiritual rebellion, and it must be confronted with both prayer and, if necessary, biblical accountability. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines the process for addressing sin within the body of Christ, and if this pattern continues unchecked, it may be time to involve trusted, mature believers who can speak truth into his life.
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. Have you, in any way, contributed to this dynamic through unforgiveness, bitterness, or retaliation? Not to excuse his sin, but to ensure that you are walking in obedience to Christ’s command in Luke 6:27-28: *"But I tell you who hear: love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who mistreat you."* This does not mean tolerating abuse—far from it—but it does mean responding in a way that honors God, even in the midst of suffering.
Now, let us pray together for your spouse, your marriage, and your protection:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and her husband. Lord, You see the pain, the confusion, and the spiritual warfare raging in their home. We ask You to intervene supernaturally. Break the power of every malicious word spoken over her and her father. Let those words fall to the ground, powerless, as You bind the enemy’s influence over her husband’s tongue. Father, we rebuke the spirit of hatred, deception, and gaslighting in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against her in judgment, You shall condemn (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord, we pray for her husband’s heart. If he is a believer, convict him deeply of his sin. Let him see the damage his words are causing and repent before You. Softening his heart, Lord, and fill him with Your love, patience, and self-control. If he is not walking with You, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself in a way he cannot ignore. Break the hardness of his heart and reveal to him the gravity of his actions. Let him encounter Your holiness and be transformed by Your grace.
Father, we also ask for wisdom for this sister. Show her how to respond in a way that honors You—whether that means setting godly boundaries, seeking counsel, or extending forgiveness where needed. Protect her mind from the lies of the enemy. Let her find her worth and security in You alone, not in her husband’s approval or behavior. Surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We declare that this marriage is Yours, Lord, and we ask that You restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Bring healing, reconciliation, and a renewed commitment to Your design for marriage. Let their home be a place of peace, not strife; of love, not hatred; of truth, not deception.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You expose any strongholds in their lives—whether generational curses, unrepentant sin, or demonic influence—and break their power in Jesus’ name. Fill this home with Your presence, Your truth, and Your love.
We pray all these things in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has all authority in heaven and on earth. Amen.
Stand firm in the Lord, sister. Do not lose heart, for He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion (Philippians 1:6). Seek godly counsel, immerse yourself in Scripture, and trust that the Lord is fighting for you, even when you cannot see it. If your husband refuses to repent or change, remember that you are not called to endure abuse indefinitely. The Lord may lead you to take further steps to protect yourself and your father, and that is not a lack of faith—it is wisdom. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
