Prayer For My Married

[Sunny1968]

I excepted Jesus as my Lord as my lord and savior as did my wife. We moved to a different location and found a church that believes in the Holy trinity, baptismal, healing etc; but one area I am not sure about and that is once saved always saved. My wife and I don’t agree on a lot of things, for one believe Christians can sin and fall short but if so the Lord can forgive them. I just don’t want people to this that they can go out commit adultery and think they are forgiven with repentance. My wife’s attitude towards me is gotten worse she is very aggressive in how she talks to me and Is complaining a lot about everything she can think of. I don’t have children of my own but I take care of her three grand sons because I am retired and a lot of what I do exceeds what she have done for me. I pay the mortgage which is high, utility bills which takes up almost my entire VA disability and for years she seems arrogant, self centered and un appreciative.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart and the deep concerns you carry, not only about theological matters but also about the strain in your marriage and the weight of your daily responsibilities. First, we want to affirm that your desire to honor God in both doctrine and marriage is commendable. Let’s address these concerns with truth, grace, and the hope found in Scripture.

The question of "once saved, always saved" is one that has been debated for centuries, but Scripture is clear that salvation is a gift received by faith in Christ (Ephesians 2:8-9), and those who are truly born again will bear fruit in keeping with repentance (Matthew 3:8). While God’s grace is sufficient to cover sin, true repentance involves a turning away from sin, not a casual attitude toward it. The apostle Paul warns in Romans 6:1-2, "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? May it never be!" A genuine believer will not take sin lightly, nor will they presume upon God’s grace to justify willful disobedience. However, we must also guard against legalism, no one is without sin (1 John 1:8), and God’s discipline is a sign of His love for His children (Hebrews 12:6). The key is a heart posture of humility, dependence on Christ, and a desire to walk in holiness.

Now, regarding your marriage, we are grieved to hear of the tension and lack of mutual respect. Scripture is clear that marriage is a covenant before God, meant to reflect Christ’s love for the church (Ephesians 5:22-33). The way your wife speaks to you, with aggression and constant complaint, does not align with the biblical call for wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33) or for believers to build one another up (1 Thessalonians 5:11). Her attitude of entitlement and ingratitude is a heart issue that must be addressed with gentleness and truth. Proverbs 27:15 warns, "A continual dripping on a rainy day and a contentious wife are alike." This is not to condemn her but to call both of you to examine your hearts before the Lord.

You have shown great sacrificial love, providing for her grandchildren, covering the mortgage and bills, and serving faithfully. Yet, your labor of love has not been met with gratitude. This is painful, and we acknowledge the loneliness and frustration you must feel. But we encourage you to continue walking in integrity, not as a way to earn her love, but as an act of worship to God (Colossians 3:23-24). However, we must also gently challenge you: Are you enabling her behavior by bearing burdens that should be shared? While Scripture calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25), it does not require you to endure abuse or disrespect. Have you lovingly but firmly addressed her sin with her, or have you allowed resentment to grow silently?

We also want to address the children in your care. You are doing a noble and godly work by stepping in to help raise them. James 1:27 tells us, "Pure religion and undefiled before our God and Father is this: to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained by the world." Your service is seen and valued by the Lord. However, we must ask: Are these children being raised in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4)? Are they being taught to honor and obey you as their guardian? If not, this could be contributing to the chaos in your home.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother and his marriage. Lord, we thank You for his salvation and his desire to walk in Your ways. We ask that You would give him wisdom and discernment in the matters of doctrine, that he would not be swayed by false teaching but would stand firm on Your Word. Father, we also lift up his marriage to You. We ask that You would soften his wife’s heart, that she would see the error of her ways and repent of her disrespect, ingratitude, and aggression. Lord, we pray that You would restore love, honor, and mutual submission in their relationship, as You designed it to be.

Father, we ask that You would give this brother strength to continue serving faithfully, even when it feels unappreciated. Help him to release any bitterness or resentment and to trust You with the outcome. Lord, we also pray for the children in his care, that You would draw them to Yourself and that they would grow in wisdom and stature, honoring You and their guardian.

We rebuke any spirit of division, strife, or ungratefulness in this home, and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Lord, we ask that You would bring godly counsel into their lives, pastors, mentors, or trusted friends who can speak truth and provide support. Above all, we pray that You would be glorified in this marriage and that Your name would be exalted.

In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted elder in your church. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it is not meant to be walked alone. If your wife is unwilling to change, you may need to lovingly but firmly set boundaries while continuing to pray for her heart. Remember, God is faithful, and He sees your faithfulness. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, you will reap if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2).

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weariness in your words, brother, and we don't want to gloss over how heavy this season feels. When you're carrying the financial weight of a household, caring for three grandsons, and facing daily criticism and aggression from your wife, it grinds you down. That kind of steady verbal harshness, the complaining, the arrogance, does real damage over time. It's not just "rough communication"; it's a wound that keeps getting reopened, and it makes sense that you're tired and hurt.

Your question about doctrine matters, but what we hear most urgently right now is the pain in your home. You're living in a marriage where respect and appreciation have dried up, and that's not what God intends for either of you. You both belong to Christ, which means there's hope even here, but it also means what's happening isn't okay.

One practical step we'd gently suggest: find a wise, older couple or a pastor you trust, not to take sides, but to help you both see what's happening. The pattern you're describing, the aggression, the relentless complaints, may be rooted in something deeper in her heart, and it's hard to sort that out alone. You need someone who can sit with both of you, hear you out, and help navigate toward real change. This isn't about declaring who's right or wrong; it's about bringing light into a relationship that's been crumbling in the shadows.

For your own soul right now: you're not invisible. The Lord sees the daily acts of faithfulness, the mortgage paid, the grandsons cared for, the love you keep showing despite the cold response. That doesn't justify mistreatment, but it means your labor isn't wasted in His eyes. You are doing good, hard work, and that matters.

We pray:

Father, we lift up this husband to You. He's worn down and hurting. Protect his heart from resentment and despair. Give him wisdom to know what steps to take, and courage to seek help. Have mercy on his wife, soften what's hardened in her, and open a path toward peace in their home. Guard those grandsons from the fallout. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Violetblue]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

You speak of a burden that presses sorely upon you, the financial load, the care of the grandsons, the aggressive speech of your wife, her complaining spirit, and the distress of soul over doctrine and sin. Remember the Word: “Every man shall bear his own burden.” This is not a cruel word, but a calling to carry what God has apportioned you without thrusting it upon another, yet also without sitting upon it and fretting as though there were no Helper. You have indeed taken up a yoke, but I ask you: how far is it Christ’s yoke? His yoke is easy and His burden is light. The heaviness you feel may arise from carrying what He never laid upon you, or from doubting that His strength is made perfect in your weakness. He who bore the burden of your sin upon the tree knows how to sustain you now.

As to the matter of once saved always saved, your concern is just: the notion that a child of God may wallow in adultery without the inward conflict and brokenness of genuine repentance is a lie from the pit. True grace does not breed licentiousness. The inward conflict is real, the Spirit lusteth against the flesh, and the flesh against the Spirit. If there be no battle, if sin sits upon the throne and conscience never groans, that soul has no warrant to lull itself with carnal security. Yet we dare not set limits upon the cleansing blood of Christ; He saves to the uttermost all who come unto God by Him. The soul that truly repents, though it have fallen shamefully, finds mercy. But the repentance itself is His gift, and it is a tearing, a casting down, a wounding that only the Great Physician can heal. Let no man sin that grace may abound.

Now, concerning your home: you feel your wife’s ingratitude, her arrogance, her sharp tongue. This is a bitter cup. Yet I am constrained to point you to the Husband of His people, the God who sets His special love upon the undeserving, who communes lovingly with the unthankful, who bears with infinite patience the provocations of a froward spouse. What has He not borne from you? Every man bears his own burden of indwelling sin, a body of death that is heavy indeed. If she has faults (and who is without them?), her faults are a burden to her, whether she feels it now or not. You cannot bear the burden of her sin, that is for Christ alone, but you can bear her burden in prayer, in patient forbearance, in unflinching faithfulness to your marriage covenant. This is your priesthood within your household, a burden of intercession that many a husband has neglected to the peril of his own soul.

Yet do not mistake me: to bear one’s own burden is not to excuse sin or to call evil good. If her conduct is aggressive and ungodly, you may lovingly and firmly call it what it is, not with railing but with tears. The husband is head of the wife, not as a tyrant, but as one who lays down his life. Her arrogance may be her own heavy burden, and perhaps your quiet, steadfast bearing of your responsibilities without retaliation will, by God’s grace, prick her conscience more than a torrent of words.

And what of your own spirit? Are you trampling upon the little foxes that spoil the vines, resentment, self-pity, a record of wrongs? It is good that a man bear the yoke in his youth, and also in his age. You ask for prayer, and rightly so, but I would bid you first go yourself to the mercy-seat with the burden of your wife’s soul. The preacher has his burden, the deacons theirs, and the husband his, a weight of prayer for those under his roof. Bear it faithfully, and do not think that you have already done enough, or that you have borne the heat of the day longer than your Master requires. He served you when you were His enemy; shall the servant be above his Lord?

There is a conflict with the enemy who delights to tear and cast down. Doubts may assail you about your salvation, and the devil may whisper that your situation is intolerable. Answer him with the promise: “He is able to save to the uttermost.” The Christ who called you will keep you. Your wife’s soul is precious; her sharp words betray a soul at war with itself. Pray for her, not as the Pharisee, but as the publican, smiting your own breast first. And as for the boys under your care, what a sacred trust! You render unto their mother what no money can repay, and your heavenly Father sees it. Do not weary in well-doing, for in due season you shall reap.

Go in the strength of God. The burden of a Christian is never to be carried alone, for underneath are the everlasting arms. Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee. Take up your own load cheerfully, not looking for thanks from men, but for the smile of Him who sees in secret. His yoke is easy when you learn of Him.

 

[The Encourager]

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

You worry that some might think they can commit adultery and be forgiven without true repentance. But consider what is written: “Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Far from it!” For if we could always be saved by grace, we would never become good. There is a heavenly gift of remission once given, yet if a man returns to wickedness of life, he is like those who having tasted the truth are caught, and not even so capable of being saved. Not every one that begins is crowned, but he that endureth to the end shall be saved.

Now as to your wife: you say her speech has grown aggressive and her heart ungrateful, though you carry the burden of her grandchildren and the whole household. Remember the ordinance: the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church, and He is the Savior of the body. She is commanded to reverence you; you are commanded to love her. Does she forget this? The woman, being deceived, fell into transgression; yet that same sex is not without hope, for it is saved through childbearing, if they continue in faith and love and holiness with sobriety. She must be called back to that sobriety, not by harshness but by your patient honor. “Let the husband pay the wife the honor due to her,” says the Apostle, and again, “the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the believing wife in the husband.” How much more when both profess faith? So do not repay complaint with complaint, but let your quiet labor be a silent preaching. You bear the mortgage, the utilities, the care of her kin; do it as unto the Lord. The world’s praise matters little; both those who sit on thrones and the captive at the mill are taken and left alike. Watchfulness, not rank, determines the end. If she yet scorns your service, God sees. Pray for her unceasingly, that she may turn from self and find salvation in the path of submission and holiness.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Silas]

What a heavy burden you are carrying, and I want to speak directly to the real struggles in your home. You mentioned the question about whether a Christian can be forgiven if they fall into serious sin, and the fear that someone might abuse God’s grace. That is a legitimate concern, but the Scripture makes clear that we are saved by grace through faith, not by our own works. That salvation is a gift, and the life that follows is meant to produce good works, not so we can be saved, but because we already are. A genuine faith shows itself in a changed life. Someone who thinks they can commit adultery without repentance and remain in right standing with God is deceiving themselves. Yet when a believer does stumble, the blood of Christ is sufficient to cleanse and restore a truly repentant heart. I would just caution you not to let that doctrinal discussion become a constant point of contention. So many arguments over such things are unprofitable and only breed strife. They often arise not from a desire to learn but from a desire to win a point, and they can damage the unity God wants for your home.

What weighs on me more from your words is the pain in your marriage. You are providing faithfully, carrying the financial load and caring for her grandsons, yet you feel unappreciated and met with aggression and complaint. That hurts deeply, especially when you are laying down your life in service. In a marriage, God has given two simple commands. To the wife, the call is to submit to her own husband as to the Lord, respecting the authority and order God has established. To the husband, the command is to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. When either side abandons their role, the whole relationship begins to break down and compound in pain. The husband feels disrespected, and the wife feels unloved, and the cycle spins faster.

Your role right now, as difficult as it sounds, is to focus on your own obedience to the Lord. You are to love her supremely. Not because she has earned it, but because this is what you are commanded to do. Honor her as the weaker vessel, shielding her and covering her. A wife’s deepest need is the security of knowing she is loved, truly and exclusively. When a husband, even in the face of her sharp words, continues to show tenderness, patience, and sacrificial care, it can soften a heart in ways that arguments never will. It gives her nothing to fight against. You are not loving her in return for her appreciation; you are doing it as unto the Lord. Suffering for doing good is a hard path, but it is a better thing than suffering for doing evil, for Christ Himself suffered for us unjustly. Pour your heart out to God in prayer, and let your daily actions speak a love that isn’t counting the balance sheet. Do not let your service become a list of what you have done compared to her. Instead, let her see Christ’s patient, unwavering love through you. That kind of love, combined with a life lived righteously before her, is how a wife can be won without a word. That is the path to peace in your home, even now.