We stand with you in this painful and difficult season, lifting your marriage before the throne of grace with heavy hearts. Thirty years of shared life, trials, and memories are not easily set aside, and we grieve with you over the brokenness, the wounds, and the deep sorrow you both carry. Yet we declare with boldness that nothing is impossible with God, and we refuse to accept despair as the final word over your marriage. We speak life, restoration, and redemption in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for He is the God who raises the dead, heals the brokenhearted, and restores what has been lost.
First, we want to affirm your faith in declaring that your husband *shall live and not die*. This is not just a hopeful wish—it is a spiritual truth rooted in the Word of God. Jesus said, “I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly” (John 10:10). We rebuke the spirit of death, fear, and suicide that has taken hold of his mind. The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came to give life—full, eternal, and victorious life. We command every lying voice that whispers hopelessness and despair to be silenced in the name of Jesus. We declare that your husband is not abandoned, not forgotten, and not beyond the reach of God’s mercy. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). This promise is for him, even now.
We also recognize the deep pain and unresolved sin that has fractured your marriage. The infidelity from years ago—on both sides—has left scars that only the blood of Jesus can fully cleanse. You have done well to repent and seek forgiveness, and we rejoice that you have been washed clean by the grace of God. But forgiveness is not a one-sided act. While you have released your husband from the debt of his past sins, he remains bound by bitterness and unforgiveness. Scripture is clear: “If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14-15). His refusal to forgive you is not only harming your marriage—it is hindering his own relationship with God. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him deeply of this truth and soften his heart to extend the same grace he has received from Christ.
His anger, fear, and rejection of God’s Word are not merely emotional responses—they are spiritual strongholds. When he reacts with rage at the mention of Jesus, it is evidence of a demonic influence seeking to blind him to the truth. The enemy does not want him to hear the voice of God, because he knows that repentance leads to freedom. But we declare that the light of Christ is breaking through the darkness. “The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light. The light has shined on those who lived in the land of the shadow of death” (Isaiah 9:2). We bind every spirit of deception, fear, and suicide, and we loose the peace of God, the comfort of the Holy Spirit, and the clarity of mind that comes from heaven. Your husband is not hearing demons—he is hearing the lies of the enemy, and we command those lies to be exposed and destroyed in Jesus’ name.
We also address the root of his despair: his physical suffering and the weight of his illness. Dialysis, chronic pain, and the uncertainty of a transplant can wear down even the strongest spirit. But God is not absent in his suffering. Psalm 34:18 tells us, “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.” We pray for supernatural healing over his body, mind, and emotions. We ask the Lord to touch his kidneys, restore his blood, and grant him strength beyond his natural ability. But more than physical healing, we pray for spiritual awakening. Suffering can either drive a person away from God or draw them closer to Him. We ask that the Holy Spirit would use this trial to reveal Christ to your husband in a fresh and powerful way. May he come to know the God who suffers with him, the Savior who bore his pain on the cross, and the Comforter who walks with him in the valley.
You have been a faithful wife, standing by him through decades of illness and hardship. Your commitment reflects the love of Christ, who never abandons His bride, even in her unfaithfulness. But we must also gently address the patterns that have allowed sin to take root in your marriage. For years, you allowed him to “have his way” in everything, even when it led to compromise and pain. While your intentions may have been rooted in love, enabling sin is not true love—it is fear. Proverbs 29:25 warns, “The fear of man proves to be a snare, but whoever puts his trust in the Lord is kept safe.” True love speaks the truth, even when it is hard. True love sets boundaries, even when it is painful. We encourage you to stand firm in godly wisdom, not in passivity. If he continues in unrepentant sin, you are not called to endure abuse or enable destruction. You are called to love him as Christ loves the church—with truth, grace, and unwavering hope.
We also want to address the issue of salvation. You have prayed fervently, spoken the name of Jesus, and declared His power over your husband’s life. But we must ask: has he ever personally surrendered his life to Christ? Has he acknowledged his sin, repented, and placed his faith in Jesus as his Lord and Savior? Romans 10:9 says, “If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Salvation is not inherited—it is a personal decision. While your faith is powerful, it cannot save him. He must choose Christ for himself. We pray that the Holy Spirit would draw him with cords of love, convict him of his need for a Savior, and lead him to repentance. May he come to know Jesus not just as a name you speak, but as the living Lord who died for his sins and rose again to give him new life.
Now, we join you in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage that has endured so much pain, sin, and suffering. Lord, You see the brokenness, the unforgiveness, and the despair that has taken root. But You are the God who makes all things new, and we ask that You would breathe life into this union once again.
We declare that this husband shall live and not die. We rebuke the spirit of death, fear, and suicide that has tormented him. In the name of Jesus, we command every lying voice to be silenced, and we release the peace of God that surpasses all understanding to guard his heart and mind. Father, touch his body with Your healing power. Restore his kidneys, strengthen his blood, and grant him the physical and emotional strength to endure this trial. But more than that, Lord, we ask that You would heal his soul. Break the chains of bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness that have bound him for so long. Soften his heart to receive Your love and to extend forgiveness to his wife.
We pray for a mighty outpouring of Your Holy Spirit upon him. Open his ears to hear Your voice, his eyes to see Your truth, and his heart to receive Your salvation. Convict him of his sin, not to condemn him, but to lead him to repentance. May he come to know Jesus as his Lord and Savior, the One who bore his sickness, his sin, and his shame on the cross. Let him experience the freedom that comes from surrendering his life to You.
For this wife, Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your strength, wisdom, and peace. She has stood faithful through decades of hardship, and we ask that You would reward her faithfulness. Give her the courage to speak truth in love, to set godly boundaries, and to trust You even when the outcome is uncertain. Protect her heart from bitterness and resentment, and let her continue to walk in forgiveness and grace.
Father, we declare that this marriage is not over. We speak restoration, reconciliation, and renewal over their union. Let them become a testimony of Your power to heal the broken, restore the lost, and redeem the impossible. May they one day stand together as a power team for Your kingdom, praying for the sick, ministering to the brokenhearted, and proclaiming Your goodness to all who will hear.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved, healed, and set free. Amen.
We encourage you to continue standing in faith, even when the situation seems hopeless. Remember the story of Hosea and Gomer—a marriage marred by unfaithfulness, yet God commanded Hosea to love his wife as a picture of His relentless love for His people. Your marriage is a testimony of God’s grace, and we believe He is working even now to bring beauty from ashes. Keep praying, keep believing, and keep trusting in the God who specializes in impossible situations. You are not alone in this fight. We stand with you, and more importantly, the Holy Spirit is interceding for you with groanings too deep for words (Romans 8:26). Hold fast to hope, for the Lord is faithful.
