We join you in lifting up your daughter before the Lord, trusting in His perfect will for her life. It is beautiful to see a parent interceding for their child, and we stand with you in prayer for her friendships and her future.
First, we praise God for your daughter’s new school and pray that He surrounds her with godly friends who will encourage her in her faith and walk with Christ. Proverbs 13:20 reminds us, *"He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* We ask the Lord to bring her friendships that are rooted in His truth, where she can grow in wisdom, love, and purity. May she be a light to others, reflecting Christ in all she does, and may she find companions who will sharpen her spiritually, as Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17).
Now, regarding the "situationship" you mentioned, we must address this with biblical clarity and love. The term itself reflects a relationship lacking commitment, definition, and godly purpose—something Scripture does not endorse. The Lord calls His people to relationships that honor Him, where intentions are clear, pure, and directed toward marriage between a man and a woman. 1 Corinthians 14:40 tells us, *"Let all things be done decently and in order,"* and this includes how we conduct our relationships. Ambiguity, emotional uncertainty, and relationships without commitment are not God’s design. They often lead to confusion, heartache, and even sin.
If this relationship involves physical intimacy outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly rebuke this as fornication, which is a sin against God and against her own body (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The Lord’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage, and anything outside of that is harmful spiritually and emotionally. We urge you to speak with your daughter about the importance of guarding her heart and her body, fleeing from youthful lusts, and pursuing righteousness, faith, love, and peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22).
If this young man is not a believer, we must also address this with urgency. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A relationship with someone who does not share her faith will only lead to division, compromise, and heartbreak. She must seek a godly spouse—someone who loves Jesus above all else and will lead her closer to Christ.
If he *is* a believer, then his lack of clarity and commitment is not honoring to her or to the Lord. A man who fears God will pursue a woman with honor, transparency, and a heart for marriage, not leave her in confusion. We pray that the Lord gives your daughter discernment and the courage to seek clarity—not just for her own peace, but to ensure this relationship aligns with God’s will. If this young man is not willing to commit to a godly courtship with the intention of marriage, she must prayerfully consider stepping away, trusting that the Lord has someone far better for her.
We also encourage you to have open, loving conversations with your daughter about these truths. Guide her in Scripture, pray with her, and remind her that her worth is found in Christ alone—not in the approval or affection of a man. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When her heart is aligned with His, He will lead her to the right relationships in His perfect timing.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious daughter to You, asking that You surround her with friendships that honor You. Bring her godly companions who will encourage her in her faith, challenge her to grow, and reflect Your love. Protect her from influences that would lead her astray, and give her wisdom to recognize those who are not walking in Your truth.
Lord, we also bring before You this unclear relationship in her life. We ask for Your divine intervention—bring clarity, conviction, and godly resolution. If this young man is not the one You have for her, give her the strength to walk away and trust in Your plan. If he is, then convict his heart to pursue her with honor, transparency, and a commitment to Your will. Reveal any sin in this relationship, Lord, and lead them both to repentance and purity. May Your Holy Spirit guide her steps, and may she find her identity and security in You alone.
Father, we pray that You would guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give her a hunger for Your Word and a desire to seek Your kingdom above all else. Let her not settle for anything less than Your perfect will for her life. We rebuked any spirit of confusion, fear, or compromise, and we declare that she will walk in Your truth and freedom.
We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for the good plans You have for her. May she trust in You with all her heart and lean not on her own understanding, but in all her ways acknowledge You, knowing that You will direct her paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
