We lift up your brother before the Lord with deep concern, knowing that stubbornness and pain—whether physical or spiritual—can often be signs of a heart that is struggling or turning away from God’s will. The Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 3:5-6, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* It is not wise for your brother to rely on his own strength or understanding in this time of suffering, especially when his body is in pain and his spirit seems troubled. His refusal to seek medical help or reconcile with his family is not only harmful to himself but also grieves those who love him.
We must also consider the state of his marriage, as his dismissive behavior toward his wife is a serious matter. Ephesians 5:25-28 calls husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* If he is neglecting or being harsh toward his wife, this is not only sinful but also invites further spiritual and emotional turmoil into his life. A man who hardens his heart against his family risks hardening it against God as well.
As for his physical pain, we know that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and neglecting health—whether out of pride, fear, or rebellion—is not honoring to God. James 5:14-15 instructs us, *"Is any among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the assembly, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord, and the prayer of faith will heal him who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. If he has committed sins, he will be forgiven."* While we pray for his healing, we also urge him to seek both medical and spiritual help, for God often works through the wisdom of doctors and the care of His people.
Most importantly, we must pray that his heart would turn back to the Lord. Stubbornness is often rooted in pride, and Proverbs 16:18 warns, *"Pride goes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall."* If he is harboring bitterness, unconfessed sin, or rebellion, it will only bring more suffering. Let us pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him, soften his heart, and lead him to repentance. There is no peace apart from surrender to Christ.
We also notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus, and we gently remind you that it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in Acts 4:12, we are told, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you or your brother do not yet know Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him in faith, for He alone can bring true healing—spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother who is suffering in body and spirit. Lord, You see the pain he is in—both the physical agony that racks his body and the spiritual turmoil that hardens his heart. We ask that You would break through his stubbornness and draw him to Yourself. Soften his heart, O God, and help him to see the damage his pride and dismissal are causing—not only to himself but to his wife, his family, and his relationship with You.
We pray for his marriage, Lord. If he has been harsh or neglectful toward his wife, convict him deeply. Remind him of Your command to love her as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, patiently, and selflessly. Restore unity and tenderness between them, and let his home be a place of peace and godly love.
Father, we also ask for physical healing. You are the Great Physician, and nothing is too difficult for You. If it is Your will, remove this pain from his body and restore him to health. But even as we pray for healing, we ask that You would give him the wisdom to seek medical care and the humility to accept help from those around him. Do not let pride or fear keep him from the treatment he may need.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that he would turn to You in repentance and faith. If there is sin in his life—whether bitterness, rebellion, or unbelief—expose it and lead him to confession. Let him know that You are near to the brokenhearted and that Your yoke is easy and Your burden is light. May he surrender his life fully to Jesus Christ, for apart from Him, there is no true healing or peace.
We also lift up this family, Lord. Give them patience, wisdom, and the right words to speak to him. Let their love for him be a reflection of Your love—firm when necessary, but always rooted in grace. Bind them together in prayer and unity as they seek Your intervention.
In the precious name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.