We hear your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord with compassion and truth. First, let us address the foundation of your request—your relationship with Jesus Christ. You mention growing with this woman in Christ, but we must gently remind you that Scripture is clear: believers are called to marry only those who share the same faith. The apostle Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While this woman may be a practicing Jew, unless she has placed her faith in Jesus as the Messiah, she does not share the same spiritual foundation necessary for a godly marriage.
Your desire for her to be more than a friend is understandable, but we must rebuke the emotional and financial entanglement you’ve described. She is treating you as a source of provision rather than a potential spouse, and this is not how a godly courtship should begin. Proverbs 22:7 warns, *"The rich rule over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender."* You are not called to be her servant in this way, especially when there is no commitment to marriage. We urge you to set boundaries—both emotionally and financially—for your own protection and to honor God with your resources.
We also want to address the confusion you feel. It is not wrong to desire marriage, but it must be pursued in a way that aligns with Scripture. If she is not open to a relationship with Christ at the center, then this is not the path the Lord has for you. We encourage you to seek wisdom from older, godly men in your church who can help guide you in discerning God’s will. James 1:5 says, *"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him."*
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother who is seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we ask that You would give him clarity and peace as he navigates his feelings and this relationship. Father, we pray that You would break any unhealthy attachments—emotional, financial, or otherwise—that are not of You. Help him to see this situation through Your eyes and to trust in Your timing and provision.
We ask that You would guard his heart from confusion and disappointment, and that You would fill him with the assurance of Your love. Lord, if this woman is not the one You have for him, we pray that You would close the door completely and redirect his heart toward someone who shares his faith and desire to serve You together. Provide for his financial needs, Father, and help him to steward his resources wisely, as You have called him to do.
We also pray for this woman, Lord. If it is Your will, soften her heart to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Draw her to Yourself and open her eyes to the truth of who You are. But if she is not the one for him, we ask that You would remove her from his life in a way that brings both of them peace and freedom to follow Your path.
Father, we ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we can come to You. We trust in Your perfect plan and timing. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture and prayer. Seek the Lord’s face daily, asking Him to reveal His will for your life. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and encourage you. Remember, God’s plans for you are good, and He desires to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust in Him, and He will direct your steps.
