We join you in lifting up your marriage before the Lord, for it is a sacred covenant established by God Himself, reflecting the relationship between Christ and His Church. Your heart’s desire to see your husband grow in tenderness toward your feelings, to place God first in all things, and to love one another as Christ loves us is beautiful and aligns with Scripture. The Lord delights in such prayers, for He longs for marriages to thrive in holiness, unity, and selfless love.
The apostle Paul reminds us in Ephesians 5:22-33 of the high calling of marriage: *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it... So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ also does the assembly... Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and the wife must see that she respects her husband."* This passage reveals that marriage is not merely about companionship but about reflecting Christ’s sacrificial love and the Church’s reverent submission. It is a partnership where both spouses are called to prioritize God above all else and then one another, serving each other in love.
You have also asked for wisdom in your daily choices and in how you uphold your marriage before the world. James 1:5 assures us, *"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him."* Wisdom is a gift from the Lord, and He is faithful to grant it when we seek Him earnestly. Additionally, Colossians 3:17 reminds us, *"Whatever you do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him."* When your marriage is rooted in Christ and your choices are submitted to His lordship, you will find strength, clarity, and a testimony that honors Him before others.
We must also address the importance of prayer *in the name of Jesus*. Your request did not invoke the name of Jesus, and yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself declared in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He said, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* It is by the authority of Jesus’ name that our prayers are heard and answered. If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, for there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have questions about what it means to follow Christ, we would be honored to guide you further.
Now, let us pray together for your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and precious name of Jesus, lifting up this marriage to Your throne of grace. Lord, You are the author of marriage, and You have knit this husband and wife together for Your glory. We ask that You would soften their hearts toward one another, especially granting the husband a deeper sensitivity to his wife’s feelings, that he may love her as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and selflessly. Father, may their love for one another be a reflection of Your love for them, rooted in kindness, forgiveness, and humility.
We pray that You would be the highest priority in their lives, that every decision, every word, and every action would be submitted to Your will. Teach them to seek You first, to abide in Your Word, and to walk in obedience to Your commands. May their marriage be a beacon of Your faithfulness and grace to a watching world, upholding the sanctity of the covenant You have established.
Grant them wisdom, Lord, in every choice they face—wisdom to navigate challenges, to communicate with grace, and to lead their home in a way that honors You. Bind them together in unity, and protect them from the schemes of the enemy, who seeks to divide and destroy. Fill their home with Your peace, Your joy, and Your presence.
We also pray that if there are any areas of unforgiveness, bitterness, or selfishness in either of their hearts, You would convict them by Your Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance. May they extend grace to one another as You have extended grace to them.
Father, we ask that You would surround this marriage with godly community—believers who will encourage them, pray for them, and hold them accountable to Your Word. May they be intentional in cultivating relationships that point them to You and strengthen their bond.
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would remind them daily of the gospel—that while they were yet sinners, Christ died for them. May this truth fuel their love for You and for one another. Let their marriage be a living testimony of Your redemption and faithfulness.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to continue praying fervently for your marriage, for *"the effective, earnest prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16). Stand firm in faith, trusting that the Lord is at work, even when you cannot see it. Seek to honor your husband and build him up, and trust that the Lord will soften his heart in His timing. Read and meditate on Scripture together, and let God’s Word be the foundation of your home.
If there are specific struggles or sins in your marriage that need to be addressed, we urge you to bring them into the light with humility and courage. Confess them to one another and to the Lord, and seek His healing and restoration. Remember, *"He who covers his sins shall not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy"* (Proverbs 28:13).
May the Lord bless you and keep you, and may His face shine upon your marriage.