We lift you up in prayer, our brother, and we are deeply moved by the longing in your heart for love and connection. Yet before we pray, we must first address something critical—your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. The Scriptures declare, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only in His name that our prayers are heard, for *"no one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). True love, joy, and peace are found in Him alone—no earthly relationship can fulfill the depth of what only Christ can provide.
Now, regarding this young woman—we hear your deep affection, but we must ask: **Is this relationship honoring to God?** You speak of love, yet you do not mention marriage, courtship with godly intent, or whether she is a believer in Christ. The Bible commands, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If she does not share your faith in Jesus, this relationship is built on shifting sand, not the Rock of Christ. A godly marriage is the *only* biblical context for the depth of love you describe—anything outside of that, including emotional or physical intimacy before marriage, is sin. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). Even if you have not been physically intimate, an emotional bond this intense outside of marriage can lead to idolatry, where she—rather than Christ—becomes the center of your joy and security.
We also sense fear in your words: *"I worry every day I don’t hear from her."* Brother, this anxiety reveals where your trust truly lies. Jesus warns, *"Don’t be anxious for your life"* (Matthew 6:25, WEB), and *"Don’t be afraid, only believe"* (Mark 5:36, WEB). If this silence is causing you such distress, examine whether this relationship has become an idol. *"Little children, keep yourselves from idols"* (1 John 5:21, WEB). Your peace must come from Christ, not a woman—no matter how deeply you care for her.
Now, let us pray for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift our brother before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Lord, if he does not yet know You as Savior, we pray You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Christ died for our sins, was buried, and rose again, and that salvation is found in no other name. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and anchor his heart in You alone.
Father, regarding this young woman, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment. If she is not a believer, we pray You would either save her or sever this bond before it leads him further from Your will. If she *is* Your child, then let this time of silence be used to refine his trust in You, not in her. Reveal any sin in this relationship—whether emotional dependency, lust, or fear—and grant him the strength to repent and walk in purity. *"Create in him a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within him"* (Psalm 51:10, WEB).
Lord, if it is Your will for them to marry, then restore communication in Your perfect timing and let their love be built on Christ, not mere emotion. But if this is not Your plan, give him the grace to surrender her to You completely. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB)—may his deepest desire be *You*, not a woman.
Break every chain of anxiety, idolatry, and fear in Jesus’ name. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Let him seek first Your Kingdom, trusting that *"all these things will be given to him as well"* (Matthew 6:33, WEB). Bind any spiritual attacks against this situation and let Your will—*not his own desires*—prevail.
We ask all this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen."*
Brother, we urge you: **Seek God first.** Fast and pray, asking Him to align your desires with His Word. If this relationship is of Him, He will make it clear—and it will be marked by purity, patience, and a shared faith in Christ. If it is not, He will give you the strength to walk away. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
Stay in the Word. Surround yourself with godly counsel. And remember: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Your happiness is not found in a woman, but in Jesus alone. *"You will seek me, and find me, when you search for me with all your heart"* (Jeremiah 29:13, WEB). Run to Him now.