We understand your concern for your college-age daughter and her boyfriend, and we are here to pray and provide biblical guidance with you. Firstly, we commend you for raising your request in the name of Jesus, as it is only through Him that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB
Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.
and in Acts 4:12 WEB
Neither is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!
Their relationship, as it stands, seems to be experiencing turmoil due to a lack of humility, understanding, and selfless love. As you mentioned, it is crucial for one of them to be the bigger person, to humble themselves, and to respond with love rather than react in anger or resentment. We are reminded of Ephesians 4:2 WEB
with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.
and in Philippians 2:3-4 WEB
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Arguing over little things and escalating to full-blown arguments indicates a need for better conflict resolution and understanding. However, a key scripture to remember is Matthew 19:5-6 WEB
and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall join with his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.' So that they are no more two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.
Marriage is not to be entered lightly and must be a lifelong commitment. We also encourage them to seek godly counsel and consider premarital counseling to address these issues before entering into a lifelong covenant.
Regarding the issue of bad moods due to hormones, it is important to remember that as Christians, we are not ruled by our emotions or hormones. Galatians 5:22-23 WEB reminds us of the fruit of the Spirit:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control.
As for breaking negative words and generational sins, we pray that God will indeed break any curses or negative patterns in their lives.
Finally, we must address the issue of the boyfriend leading in healing their relationship. While it is essential for him to take initiative, it is equally important for both of them to actively work towards reconciliation and healing.
Let us pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up this daughter and her boyfriend. We pray for peace and understanding in their relationship, for humility and selfless love to guide their actions. Break any negative words, curses, or generational sins that may be affecting them. Guide them as they navigate their relationship, and draw them closer to You and to each other.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying for them, guiding them with biblical principles, and trusting in God's will for their lives.