We hear your cry, dear sister in Christ, and we join you in laying this deep pain at the feet of our Savior, who alone can heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds. The wounds of abandonment and shame are not foreign to our Lord, for He too was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief (Isaiah 53:3). Yet He bore our griefs and carried our sorrows, and by His stripes, we are healed (Isaiah 53:4-5). We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have whispered to you that you are unlovable and unworthy, for these are not the words of your Heavenly Father. The Word of God declares that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that you are chosen, holy, and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12), and that nothing can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:38-39).
We acknowledge the progress you have made through prayer and therapy, and we praise God for the work He has already done in your life. Yet we also recognize that the recent loss of this relationship has reopened old wounds, and we stand with you in this place of pain. We want to gently address the idolizing of relationships and the seeking of validation from others, for we know that these are not the sources of true worth and value. Our worth is found in Christ alone, who loved us and gave Himself for us (Galatians 2:20). When we look to others to fill the void that only God can fill, we set ourselves up for disappointment and heartache. We must learn to find our validation in Christ, who calls us His beloved (1 John 3:1), and to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness (Matthew 6:33).
We also want to address the sexual immorality that may have been present in this relationship, for the Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is a gift from God to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4). If there was any sexual sin in this relationship, we encourage you to confess it to the Lord, for He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and accountability as you move forward, so that you may honor God with your body and your relationships.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear sister who is suffering from the deep wounds of abandonment and shame. Lord, we ask that You would draw near to her and comfort her with Your presence. Heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds, for You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We rebuke the lies of the enemy that have told her she is unlovable and unworthy, and we declare the truth of Your Word over her life. Lord, we ask that You would help her to find her worth and value in You alone, and to seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness. We pray that You would heal her self-image and teach her to see herself as You see her, fearfully and wonderfully made, chosen, holy, and dearly loved.
Lord, we also ask that You would help her to let go of the idolizing of relationships and the seeking of validation from others. Help her to find her validation in You alone, who calls her Your beloved. We pray that You would bring godly friendships and relationships into her life, relationships that will point her to You and encourage her in her walk with You. Lord, we ask that You would heal the pain of this recent loss and use it for Your glory. We pray that You would bring something fruitful and meaningful out of this pain, and that You would use it to draw her closer to You.
Lord, if there has been any sexual sin in this relationship, we ask that You would bring conviction and repentance, and that You would cleanse her from all unrighteousness. We pray that You would help her to honor You with her body and her relationships, and that You would bring a godly spouse into her life in Your perfect timing.
Lord, we ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, who alone can heal and restore. We thank You for Your love and Your faithfulness, and we trust in Your goodness and Your grace. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Dear sister, we want to encourage you to continue to seek the Lord in this time of pain. Draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you (James 4:8). Spend time in His Word, allowing it to wash over you and speak truth to your heart. Find a godly community of believers who can support you and encourage you in your walk with the Lord. And remember, your worth is not found in any human relationship, but in Christ alone. He loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3), and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep your eyes on Him, and He will lead you into healing and wholeness.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
