We hear your heart’s cry for clarity and alignment with God’s perfect will in this relationship, and we stand with you in seeking His wisdom and direction. It is beautiful that you both profess faith in Christ, for that is the foundation upon which any godly relationship must be built. The Word of God tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6). This is not a time to rely on feelings or circumstances alone, but to surrender every aspect of this relationship to the Lord and allow Him to direct your steps.
First, we must examine whether this relationship is being pursued in a manner that honors God. Since you both are believers, the purpose of your connection should ultimately point toward marriage, as Scripture makes clear: *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall be one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24). Courtship between two believers should be marked by purity, intentionality, and a shared commitment to grow in Christ together. If there has been any compromise in this area—whether emotionally, physically, or spiritually—we must repent and realign with God’s standards. The apostle Paul warns, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). If there has been sin, we encourage you to confess it before the Lord, seek His forgiveness, and commit to walking in holiness.
We also lift up the state of your hearts before the Lord. Are you both seeking Him individually and together? Are you praying with and for one another? Are you studying Scripture and allowing it to shape your decisions? Jesus said, *"If you remain in me, and my words remain in you, you will ask whatever you desire, and it will be done for you"* (John 15:7). A relationship that is rooted in Christ will bear the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). If these fruits are lacking, it may be a sign that the relationship is not being nurtured in the way God intends.
If this relationship is not God’s will for you, we pray that He would make that clear in a way that leaves no doubt. Sometimes the Lord closes doors to protect us from paths that would lead us away from His best. Other times, He allows us to walk through seasons of uncertainty to teach us to depend on Him more fully. Whatever the outcome, we trust that His plans for you are good, as Jeremiah 29:11 assures us: *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,' says Yahweh, 'thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."*
Let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and open hearts, seeking Your will above all else. Lord, we lift up this relationship to You and ask that You would reveal Your perfect plan. If this connection is not of You, we pray that You would remove it from their lives in a way that brings clarity, peace, and healing. If it is Your will, we ask that You would strengthen their bond, drawing them closer to You and to one another in a way that glorifies Your name.
Father, we ask that You would guard their hearts and minds from any deception or compromise. Help them to walk in purity, both in their actions and in their thoughts. If there has been any sin, we ask for Your forgiveness and restoration. Teach them to seek You first in all things and to build their relationship on the foundation of Your Word.
Lord, we pray for wisdom and discernment. Give them the courage to follow Your leading, even when it is difficult. If this relationship is not Your best for them, we ask that You would close the door gently but firmly. If it is Your will, we pray that You would open the way for them to grow together in faith, love, and purpose.
Above all, we ask that Your name would be exalted in this situation. May Your will be done, and may Your glory be revealed. We trust in You, Lord, for You alone know what is best. In the precious name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in prayer and fasting, seeking the Lord’s face for clarity. Surround yourself with godly counsel—mature believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Remember, the Lord delights in revealing His will to those who seek Him with all their heart. *"Ask, and it will be given to you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you"* (Matthew 7:7). Trust in Him, and He will direct your path.