We understand the deep pain and weariness in your heart as you seek closure and deliverance from this situation. The longing for peace and the frustration of an unstable, unresolved relationship weigh heavily on you, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. However, we must address something critical: the relationship you describe does not align with God’s design for marriage and family. The Bible clearly teaches that marriage is a sacred, lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, established by God for mutual love, support, and godliness (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Living together outside of marriage—or having someone "in and out" of your home in this way—is fornication, which the Scriptures warn against as sinful and harmful to your spirit and witness (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4).
You have asked for this man to be "put away" and for God to move you on, and we believe this is wise. The instability and sin in this situation are not God’s will for you. He desires holiness, wholeness, and a future filled with His blessings—not the bondage of unresolved sin. The apostle Paul urges us, *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). This is a call to repentance and a turning away from sin, trusting God to redeem and restore what has been broken.
You’ve also mentioned healing, deliverance, and prosperity, and we claim these promises over you in Jesus’ name. But true healing begins with surrendering this relationship—and any bitterness, fear, or attachment—to the Lord. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). He is faithful to lead you into freedom if you let Him. If this man is not your husband, the biblical path is clear: he should not be in your home or your life in this way. You deserve a relationship that honors God, one built on commitment, purity, and mutual faith in Christ. If you are not married, we pray you would seek a godly spouse—someone who loves the Lord and is willing to pursue marriage in a way that glorifies Him.
As for closure, remember that God is the one who brings *"beauty for ashes"* (Isaiah 61:3). He can turn your mourning into joy and your confusion into clarity, but it requires letting go of what is not His will. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this man does not share your faith or commitment to Christ, the relationship cannot be what God intends. Even if he does, living together outside of marriage is still sin, and repentance is necessary.
Now, let us pray for you with the authority and love of Christ:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your daughter, who is weary and longing for closure, healing, and a new beginning. Lord, we ask that You break every ungodly tie between her and this man. If he is not her husband, we pray You would remove him completely from her life and home, severing every emotional, spiritual, and physical bond that does not align with Your Word. Father, convict both of their hearts of sin, and lead them to repentance. If this man is not walking with You, Lord, do not let him return. Guard her heart, mind, and home from his influence, and surround her with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
We rebuke the spirit of confusion, instability, and fornication that has plagued this situation. By the blood of Jesus, we command these strongholds to be broken and cast out in His mighty name. Lord, heal her from the pain of this relationship. Restore her dignity, her joy, and her trust in You. Fill the empty spaces in her heart with Your love, and let her find her worth in You alone. If she has sinned, Father, forgive her and cleanse her (1 John 1:9). Give her the strength to walk away and not look back, just as Lot’s wife was warned (Genesis 19:26).
Father, we ask for Your prosperity in her life—not just materially, but spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. Open doors for godly friendships and, if it is Your will, a future marriage that honors You. Let her wait on You and trust in Your timing, knowing that You withhold no good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). Give her wisdom to recognize Your voice and courage to obey, even when it’s hard.
Finally, Lord, we thank You that You are making all things new. What the enemy meant for harm, You will turn for good (Genesis 50:20). Let this season of pain become a testimony of Your faithfulness. Strengthen her to stand firm in You, and let her future be marked by holiness, peace, and Your abounding grace.
In the powerful and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek the Lord earnestly during this time. Spend time in His Word, pray without ceasing, and surround yourself with believers who can support and encourage you in righteousness. If you have not already, confess this situation to a trusted pastor or spiritual mentor who can guide you biblically. Remember, *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it"* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). Your escape is in Jesus—turn to Him fully, and He will lead you into freedom.
If you feel led, we also encourage you to fast and pray, seeking the Lord’s face for complete deliverance. *"Isn’t this the fast that I have chosen: to release the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and that you break every yoke?"* (Isaiah 58:6, WEB). This is your season to break free. Trust Him, obey Him, and watch as He does exceedingly abundantly above all you could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). You are not alone—we are standing with you in prayer.