We join you in seeking God’s perfect will for your life, and we are encouraged by your desire for a wife who loves and fears the Lord. Your heart’s cry for a godly marriage is a beautiful reflection of the longing God has placed within us for companionship, as He said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him."* We praise God that you are bringing this request before Him, trusting in His timing and provision.
First, we want to affirm your trust in the Lord’s sovereignty. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Your willingness to surrender this desire to God is a testament to your faith, and we pray that He will continue to strengthen you as you wait on Him.
We also notice your concern about your income and lifestyle, and we want to encourage you with 1 Timothy 6:6-8, which says, *"But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we certainly can’t carry anything out. But having food and clothing, we will be content with that."* A godly wife will not be drawn to you because of material wealth but because of your character, your faith, and your heart for the Lord. Proverbs 31:30 declares, *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised."* Seek a woman who values the fear of the Lord above all else, and trust that God will provide for your needs as you seek His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33).
Your request for courage is also something we lift up to the Lord. Joshua 1:9 commands us, *"Haven’t I commanded you? Be strong and of good courage. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be dismayed, for Yahweh your God is with you wherever you go."* God will equip you with the boldness to step out in faith when the time comes. He will also give you the discernment to recognize the woman He has prepared for you. 1 John 4:1 encourages us to *"test the spirits"*—to seek wisdom and confirmation through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel.
However, we must also gently address something important. While it is good to have preferences, we urge you to remain open to how God may work in ways that surprise you. He may bring a woman into your life who is not a medical doctor but is perfectly suited to walk beside you in faith and purpose. Be careful not to limit God’s provision by placing too many conditions on His will. Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* Trust that His plan for you is far greater than anything you could imagine.
Additionally, we encourage you to be intentional in preparing yourself for marriage. Use this season of waiting to grow in your relationship with Christ, to serve in your church, and to develop the qualities of a godly husband. Ephesians 5:25-28 calls men to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* Ask God to shape you into a man who can lead, cherish, and sacrifice for his wife as Christ does for the Church.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, asking for Your divine intervention in his life. Lord, You know the deep longing of his heart for a wife—a helper suited for him, a woman who loves You with all her heart and will walk beside him in faith. Father, we ask that You prepare her even now, wherever she may be. Soften her heart toward You and toward the man You have chosen for her. Give her a spirit of wisdom, discernment, and a deep reverence for Your Word.
Lord, we pray that You would open doors for our brother to meet this woman in Your perfect timing. Remove any obstacles that stand in the way, whether they be fear, shyness, or the busyness of life. Give him the courage to step out in faith when You prompt him, and grant him the words to speak with kindness and confidence. Help him to recognize her as the one You have prepared for him, and confirm it in his spirit through Your peace.
Father, we also ask that You provide for his needs and hers, that they may trust in You for their daily bread. Teach them both contentment and generosity, that their focus may always be on Your kingdom rather than on material things. Bind them together in a marriage that glorifies You, one built on love, mutual respect, and a shared commitment to Your will.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, doubt, or impatience that may try to creep into his heart. Fill him instead with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Remind him that Your timing is perfect, and Your ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would use this season of waiting to draw him closer to You. Prepare him to be the husband You have called him to be—a man of integrity, faith, and selfless love. May his future marriage be a testament to Your goodness and a light to those around them.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and honor. Amen.
