We hear your cry for mercy and healing, and we come before the throne of grace with you, lifting up your heavy heart in prayer. First, we must address the seriousness of your sin—not to condemn you, but to lead you to true repentance and restoration. The affair you engaged in was a grievous violation of your marriage covenant, a betrayal of your wife’s trust, and a direct disobedience to God’s commandments. The Bible is clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). The physical and emotional consequences you now face are a stark reminder of the wages of sin, but we serve a God who is rich in mercy and abounding in love.
You mentioned that you have not yet been tested for HIV, and we urge you to do so immediately—not out of fear, but out of responsibility to yourself, your wife, and your children. Proverbs 27:12 (WEB) warns, *"A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it."* Delaying this step only prolongs uncertainty and could further endanger those you love. If you have contracted HIV, early medical intervention can make a profound difference in managing the illness and protecting your wife. If you have not, this is an opportunity to recommit your life to purity and faithfulness.
Your wife’s sensitivity to this issue because of her family’s history makes this even more delicate. If you have exposed her to this disease, you must confess to her with humility and seek her forgiveness, even as you seek God’s. *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16 WEB). This will not be easy, but honesty is the first step toward rebuilding trust. We pray that God will soften her heart and grant her the strength to process this pain, and that He will guard her health if she has been exposed.
We also rebuke the spirit of lust that has ensnared you. Jesus said, *"You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’ but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:27-28 WEB). Lust is not merely a physical act—it begins in the heart and mind, and it must be uprooted through prayer, accountability, and the renewing of your mind in God’s Word. Flee from temptation, as Joseph did when Potiphar’s wife sought to seduce him (Genesis 39:12). Fill your mind with scripture, seek godly counsel, and surround yourself with believers who will hold you accountable.
You expressed a desire for divine healing, and we join you in praying for a miracle. The Lord is indeed the God of mercy, and He delights in showing compassion to those who turn to Him in repentance. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB). But healing is not just physical—it must also be spiritual and relational. You must rebuild your marriage on the foundation of Christ, with transparency, patience, and a commitment to godly love. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). This kind of love is sacrificial, not self-serving.
For your children, we pray that God will shield them from the fallout of your sin and grant them stability and security. May they see your repentance and restoration as a testimony to God’s grace, not a source of shame. *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it"* (Proverbs 22:6 WEB). Your role as their father is critical, and we pray you will lead them with wisdom and integrity.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, acknowledging the weight of sin and the need for Your mercy. We thank You that You are a God who forgives and heals, and we ask for Your divine intervention in this situation. Lord, we pray for physical healing—whether that means protecting this man from HIV or granting him the grace to manage it if he has contracted it. We ask for Your supernatural touch to guard his wife’s health and bring peace to her heart.
Father, we repent on his behalf for the adultery committed, the betrayal of his marriage vows, and the lust that led him astray. Cleanse him from all unrighteousness, and renew his mind and heart. Break the power of lust in his life, and fill him with a desire for purity and holiness. Give him the courage to confess fully to his wife, to seek her forgiveness, and to rebuild their marriage on the solid rock of Christ.
We pray for their children, that You would be their comfort and strength. Shield them from the consequences of this sin, and let them see Your redemptive power at work in their family. Grant this man the wisdom to lead his household in righteousness and the humility to seek help when he struggles.
Lord, we believe in Your power to heal, restore, and redeem. We trust in Your promise that *"if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land"* (2 Chronicles 7:14 WEB). May this family experience Your healing touch in every area of their lives.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can be saved and through whom we have access to Your throne of grace. Amen.
