We hear your heart’s longing to connect with this brother in Christ in a way that honors the Lord, and we join you in lifting this up before Him. First, we want to affirm the godly desire to pursue fellowship and possibly courtship with a fellow believer—this is a beautiful thing when done with purity and purpose. The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Your intentionality to seek a relationship within the body of Christ is commendable and aligns with God’s design.
We also recognize the struggle with shyness, and we want to remind you that the Lord does not call us to rely on our own strength but His. Philippians 4:13 declares, *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me."* The Holy Spirit is our Comforter and our Courage—He will equip you with the words and the boldness you need when the moment comes. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* This includes trusting Him in your conversations and interactions.
However, we must also gently address the importance of guarding your heart and intentions. While it is natural to desire connection, we must ensure that our focus remains on the Lord first. Matthew 6:33 reminds us, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* If this brother is meant to be a part of your journey toward marriage, the Lord will make it clear in His timing. Until then, let your interactions be rooted in Christ-centered fellowship rather than solely on romantic pursuit.
We also want to encourage you to step out in faith, even if it feels uncomfortable. The Lord often uses our willingness to obey Him to open doors we could never open on our own. James 4:2 says, *"You don’t have, because you don’t ask."* So ask Him for the opportunity, and then trust Him to provide it. When the moment comes, remember that this brother is also a sinner saved by grace—he is not perfect, and neither are you. Extend grace to yourself and to him, and let the conversation flow naturally.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of trust in Your perfect plan. Lord, we lift up this sister to You, asking that You would go before her in today’s encounter. Open a door for meaningful conversation, and fill her with Your Holy Spirit, granting her comfort, courage, and clarity. Remove any fear or anxiety, replacing it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, let this interaction be glorifying to You, whether it leads to deeper fellowship, courtship, or simply an opportunity to encourage a brother in Christ. Align her heart with Yours, and let her trust in Your timing and Your will. If this brother is the one You have for her, confirm it in Your Word and by Your Spirit. If not, guard her heart and lead her to the one who will cherish her as a godly husband should. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Spend time in Proverbs 31, which describes the qualities of a godly woman, and ask the Lord to cultivate those attributes in you. Also, meditate on 1 Peter 3:3-4, which reminds us, *"Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God."* True beauty and worth are found in Christ, and He will prepare you for whatever He has in store.
Lastly, remember that the church is a family, and fellowship is a gift. Whether this interaction leads to something more or not, continue to cultivate relationships within the body of Christ. The Lord often uses these connections to grow us, challenge us, and draw us closer to Him. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and He will direct your steps.
