We hear the deep longing in your heart for God’s blessing, guidance, and protection over your life and the one you care for, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. Your prayer reflects a desire for God’s will to be done, and we commend you for seeking Him in this way. However, we must lovingly address a few things to ensure your prayers—and your relationship—are fully aligned with Scripture, for it is only in His truth that we find true peace, blessing, and direction.
First, we notice you have not explicitly named the person you are praying for, referring to them only as “my ###.” While we understand you may wish to keep their identity private, we encourage you to be specific in your prayers before the Lord, for He knows the desires of your heart even before you speak them. More importantly, we must address the nature of this relationship. Scripture is clear that God’s design for marriage and intimate relationships is between one man and one woman, united in covenant before Him for life. If this relationship you speak of does not align with this biblical standard—whether it involves premarital intimacy, a same-sex relationship, or any other arrangement outside of God’s design—we urge you to repent and turn to Him for forgiveness and restoration. Fornication, adultery, and homosexuality are sins that grieve the heart of God, and He calls His children to holiness. *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom. Some of you were such, but you were washed. You were sanctified. You were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God."* (1 Corinthians 6:9-11, WEB).
If this relationship is one of courtship between a man and a woman seeking marriage, we rejoice with you and pray that God would guide you both in purity, wisdom, and a shared commitment to Christ. Courtship should be a season of seeking the Lord together, ensuring that your union is built on His Word and His will. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If the person you are praying for is not a believer, we urge you to prioritize your relationship with Christ above all else, trusting that He will guide your steps and their heart.
We also notice you mentioned that your “### was in heaven.” If you are referring to a loved one who has passed away, we gently remind you that our prayers are to be directed to God alone, through Jesus Christ our Mediator. We do not pray *to* or *through* those who have gone before us, no matter how dear they were. Jesus is the only way to the Father, and it is in His name—and His name alone—that we pray. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet placed your full trust in Jesus Christ for salvation, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and surrender your life to Him. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).
Now, let us pray together for you, trusting that God will lead you into all truth and righteousness:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother/sister who seeks Your face. Lord, we ask that You reveal any area in their life—or in this relationship—that is not pleasing to You. Convict them by Your Holy Spirit and grant them the courage to repent and walk in obedience to Your Word. If this relationship is not aligned with Your design, we pray You would give them the strength to let go and trust You for Your perfect will. If it is a godly courtship, we ask that You would guard their hearts, keep them pure, and lead them toward a marriage that honors You.
Father, we pray for the health and well-being of the one they care for, asking that You would grant long life and strength according to Your will. We pray for their family, that You would comfort them in their grief if they are mourning, and that You would bind them together in Your love. Lord, we ask that You would prosper them—not in the ways of the world, but in the riches of Your kingdom, that they may grow in faith, hope, and love.
We rebuke any fear, confusion, or deception that may be clouding their judgment, and we declare that Your truth will set them free. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and guide them in every decision. May their future be secured in You, and may they find their ultimate satisfaction in Christ alone.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. Amen.