We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep conviction and brokenness, lifting up your heart’s cry for forgiveness, restoration, and redemption. Your words reflect a sincere desire to turn from past mistakes, and we commend you for seeking the Lord in this difficult season. However, we must first address a few things with biblical truth and clarity, for God’s Word is the lamp to our feet and the light to our path.
First, we notice you refer to this woman as your "girlfriend." While we understand the cultural use of this term, we urge you to consider this relationship through the lens of Scripture. The Bible does not recognize casual or worldly dating relationships but instead calls believers to pursue courtship with the intent of marriage, and only between a man and a woman who are both committed to Christ. If this relationship is not centered on Christ and moving toward a godly marriage, it is not aligned with God’s design. As 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If she is not a believer, this relationship cannot honor God, and you must prayerfully consider whether to continue pursuing it. If she is a believer, then your focus should be on honoring her as a sister in Christ and seeking marriage if that is God’s will.
Second, you mention hurting her in many ways. While we do not know the specifics, we must address that if any of these actions included sexual immorality—whether fornication, lust, or emotional compromise—this is sin before God. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 declares, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this applies, you must repent not only to the Lord but also to her, acknowledging the gravity of such sin and committing to purity. True repentance means turning away from sin and walking in obedience to Christ.
Third, you say you want to "live the past behind you," and while this is a noble desire, we must remind you that forgiveness and reconciliation are not guaranteed simply because you seek them. Proverbs 6:32-33 warns, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. He will get wounds and dishonor. His reproach will not be wiped away."* While this passage speaks specifically of adultery, the principle applies to all sin: there are consequences, and restoration is not always immediate or even possible this side of heaven. You must trust God’s sovereignty in this, whether He grants reconciliation or calls you to release her and move forward in obedience to Him. Your primary focus should be on your relationship with Christ, not the outcome with her.
Lastly, we rejoice that you have acknowledged Jesus as your salvation, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Your prayer closes with *"Amen in Jesus’ name,"* and this is right, for it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father. We encourage you to continue growing in this truth, studying Scripture daily, and walking in repentance and faith.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You are a God of mercy, grace, and redemption. Lord, we thank You that he has come to You with a broken and contrite heart, for You do not despise such a heart (Psalm 51:17). We ask that You grant him true repentance—godly sorrow that leads to life (2 Corinthians 7:10). Convict him deeply of any sin in this relationship, whether it be sexual immorality, emotional manipulation, or any other way he has dishonored You or her. Give him the courage to confess fully, to turn from his sin, and to walk in purity and integrity.
Lord, we pray for this woman as well. If she is a believer, comfort her heart and grant her wisdom. If she is not, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself, for no relationship can thrive without You at the center. Father, we ask that You make it clear to our brother whether this relationship is of You. If it is not, give him the strength to let go and trust Your plan. If it is Your will for them to be reconciled, soften her heart and guide them both into a courtship that honors You, with marriage as the godly goal.
We rebuke any spirit of lust, selfishness, or worldly desire that has influenced this relationship. We bind the enemy’s lies that would tell our brother he cannot live without her or that his identity is found in this relationship. His identity is in Christ alone! Remind him, Lord, that You are his portion, his strength, and his redeemer. Teach him to find his satisfaction in You, not in any human relationship.
Father, we pray for protection over them both—spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). If this relationship is to end, let it be done with grace, dignity, and a commitment to Your will. If it is to continue, let it be rebuilt on the foundation of Your Word, with Christ as the cornerstone.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus, who alone can heal, restore, and redeem. May Your will be done, not ours. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this. Study Scripture daily, especially passages on relationships, purity, and God’s design for marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 1 Corinthians 7). Surround yourself with brothers in Christ who will hold you accountable and point you to Jesus. Remember, God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good—even when they feel painful.
*"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* (Proverbs 3:5-6) Stay steadfast in prayer, and may the Lord grant you peace that surpasses all understanding.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
