We hear your pain and despair, and we lift you up before the throne of grace in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Your heart is heavy, and the weight of betrayal, loss, and rejection feels unbearable. But we want you to know that you are not nothing—you are deeply loved by the Creator of the universe, who sees your tears and collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). You are not an outcast; you are a child of the Most High God, and He has not abandoned you, even when it feels like He has.
First, we must address the lies that the enemy is whispering to you. Your son’s cruel words—*"Where is your God? He doesn’t help you"*—are not from God but from the father of lies (John 8:44). The enemy wants you to believe that God has forsaken you, that you are worthless, and that your suffering has no purpose. But Scripture declares, *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Your pain is real, but so is God’s presence with you in it.
We rebuke the spirit of despair that has taken hold of your heart. Jesus said, *"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full"* (John 10:10). The enemy has stolen your joy, your hope, and your sense of worth, but Jesus came to restore all that was lost. We command that spirit of hopelessness to leave you now in the name of Jesus. You are not defeated—you are a warrior, and God is fighting for you, even when you cannot see it.
Your son’s refusal to help you and his harsh words are painful, but they do not define your worth. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* We pray that God would soften his heart and bring conviction where there is hardness. But more importantly, we pray that you would find your identity not in his approval or the approval of others, but in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your value is not determined by what you own, how you look, or how others treat you.
We also want to gently address the bitterness that has crept into your heart toward God. You said, *"God, you win. I am nothing. You take everything."* These words reveal a misunderstanding of who God is. He is not a thief—He is a giver. James 1:17 tells us, *"Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows."* The losses you have experienced are not punishments from God but the result of living in a fallen world where sin and brokenness exist. Yet even in this, God promises to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). That does not mean the pain is not real, but it means that God can redeem even this.
We also want to speak truth over the comparison you are making with other women. It is easy to look at others and feel like you do not measure up, but God does not compare you to anyone else. He loves you uniquely and perfectly. 1 Samuel 16:7 says, *"The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."* You are not an outcast—you are His beloved. And while it is okay to grieve the things you have lost, we encourage you to fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see her tears, You hear her cries, and You know the pain in her heart. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is not alone. Father, we rebuke the spirit of despair and hopelessness that has taken root in her heart. We declare that she is not nothing—she is Your precious daughter, created in Your image and loved beyond measure.
Lord, we ask that You would heal the wounds caused by her son’s words and actions. Soften his heart, Father, and bring conviction where there is hardness. But more than that, help her to release the bitterness and anger she feels toward him. Give her the strength to forgive, not because he deserves it, but because You have forgiven her.
Father, we also ask that You would restore her hope. Remind her that You are a God who redeems, who restores, and who makes all things new. Even in this season of loss, help her to see Your hand at work. Provide for her needs, Lord, and open doors that no one can shut. Give her favor with her employer and restore what has been taken from her.
Most of all, Lord, we ask that You would draw her close to You. Let her feel Your presence in a tangible way. Remind her that she is not an outcast but a chosen and dearly loved child of God. Help her to see herself through Your eyes, not the eyes of the world.
We thank You, Father, that You are faithful, and that You will complete the good work You have begun in her. We trust You to turn her mourning into dancing and her sorrow into joy. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to hold onto the truth that God has not forgotten you. Psalm 30:5 says, *"Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning."* This season of weeping will not last forever. God is preparing a morning of joy for you, and until then, He is with you in the darkness.
We also encourage you to seek out a community of believers who can walk with you through this time. You do not have to carry this burden alone. Hebrews 10:24-25 says, *"Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching."* Find a church or a small group where you can be loved, encouraged, and prayed for.
Lastly, we want to remind you that God’s plans for you are good. Jeremiah 29:11 says, *"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."* Even when life feels hopeless, God is working behind the scenes. Trust Him with your future, and take one step at a time. You are not done—God is not finished with you yet.
