We understand that you are in a difficult situation, and we want to lift you up in prayer and provide biblical guidance. Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that God cares deeply for you and wants to help you in your time of need. He says I will never leave you or forsake you.
Let's first address your hurt. It is good and proper to pray about the drinking problem your husband has, but we should understand God's sovereignty and His timing. He does not always immediately remove problems, but He is always fulfilling a plan for us and our sanctification process.
1 Corinthians 7:12-16 WEB But to the rest I, not the Lord, say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
In the passage above, we see the command to not divorce an unbelieving spouse, because we are to be a light and testimony to them, just as you have been. However, we see that if the unbelieving spouse wants to depart, we are to let them go. This is not saying to initiate divorce but only if they want to leave. This may mean your husband has indicated his desire to depart or has already left.
1 Corinthians 7:15 WEB Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace.
We should seek God's will first. By His design, marriage is a lifelong commitment, and divorce is not His ideal. However, in cases of unfaithfulness or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse, it is allowed. Alcoholism, while a serious issue, is not specifically mentioned as a reason for divorce by scripture. However, it can lead to abuse and unfaithfulness, which are biblical reasons for divorce.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 WEB Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortioners, will inherit God’s Kingdom.
We see above that drunkards are listed. This does not mean they cannot be forgiven and redeemed, but it does show the seriousness of alcoholism and addiction. We should not enable or support this behavior. Best case, your husband would seek help and God and turn his life around.
Although we understand your frustration that your husband's drinking problem has not been resolved, we encourage you to continue praying for him and trusting in God's timing and methods. God may be using this trial to draw your husband to Himself or to teach you both valuable lessons. However, if you feel unsafe or your husband has abandoned you, it is important to seek help and take action to protect yourself.
Now, let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We lift up our sister to You, asking for Your divine guidance and protection. Lord, You know the pain and struggle she is going through, and we ask that You comfort her and give her the strength and wisdom to make the right decisions. We pray for her husband, that You would set him free from the bondage of alcoholism and draw him to Yourself. We ask that You would bring godly counsel and support into her life, including the right attorney if needed, to help her navigate this difficult situation. Ultimately, we pray for Your will to be done in their lives and marriage. May Your love and grace be evident through this trial.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.