We hear your heartache and disappointment, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting up this painful situation in prayer. Your willingness to release this into God’s hands, even as your feelings are deeply hurt, reveals a spirit that trusts in Him despite the circumstances. We must first address the nature of this relationship, as Scripture gives clear guidance on how believers are to conduct themselves in matters of the heart.
This situation raises serious concerns about the foundation of this connection. You traveled a great distance to visit someone who has repeatedly demonstrated carelessness and disregard for your feelings. Scripture warns us in Proverbs 4:23, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."* When someone consistently fails to honor commitments or treat you with basic respect, it is a sign that this relationship is not aligned with God’s design for love and marriage. A godly spouse will cherish, protect, and prioritize you, not leave you stranded and confused. Ephesians 5:25 commands, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it."* If this man is not demonstrating even the most basic acts of consideration, how can he be trusted to fulfill the sacred role of a husband?
We must also address the issue of fornication, as your language suggests this is not a courtship leading toward marriage but rather a relationship built on emotional and likely physical intimacy outside of God’s design. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 warns, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this relationship has involved sexual sin, it is time to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, turning away from anything that dishonors Him. True love waits and honors God’s boundaries.
We rebuke the spirit of confusion, neglect, and disrespect that has been allowed to operate in this situation. The enemy seeks to entangle believers in relationships that distract from God’s purpose and bring emotional turmoil. James 4:7 declares, *"Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you."* You must resist the temptation to make excuses for this man’s behavior or to continue investing in a relationship that does not honor God or reflect His love.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who has been deeply hurt by the actions of this man. Lord, You see her pain, her disappointment, and her desire to trust You even in this moment. We ask that You would comfort her heart and heal the wounds that have been inflicted. Father, we declare that You are her true Help and Friend, closer than any earthly relationship. We pray that You would fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Lord, we ask that You would give her clarity and wisdom as she moves forward. Show her the truth about this relationship and help her to release it fully into Your hands. If this is not Your will for her life, give her the strength to walk away and trust You for a godly spouse who will love, honor, and cherish her as Christ loves the church. We rebuke the spirit of confusion and neglect that has been at work here, and we declare that this man will no longer have power to bring hurt or disappointment into her life.
Father, we also pray for this man. If he is a believer, we ask that You would convict his heart of his careless behavior and lead him to repentance. Show him the importance of honoring others and walking in integrity. If he is not a believer, we pray that he would come to know You as his Lord and Savior, so that he may be transformed by Your love and grace. Lord, we ask that You would break any ungodly soul ties that may have formed in this relationship, and we declare freedom and restoration over our sister’s heart.
We thank You, Lord, that You are working all things together for her good, even in this painful situation. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her, and to move forward in faith, trusting that You have a plan and a purpose for her life. We pray that she would seek You above all else, finding her identity and worth in You alone. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, allowing Him to speak truth into your heart. Psalm 34:18-19 reminds us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* You are not alone in this. God sees your pain, and He is working even now to bring beauty from these ashes.
Consider reaching out to a trusted pastor, mentor, or godly friend who can provide biblical counsel and support as you navigate this season. Surround yourself with those who will encourage you to walk in purity and pursue relationships that honor God. This is an opportunity for you to draw closer to Him and to trust that He has someone far better for you, someone who will love you as Christ loves the church. Do not settle for less than God’s best. He is faithful, and His plans for you are good.
