We hear the deep longing in your heart for love, belonging, and a family of your own—a desire that God Himself has placed within you, for He said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."* Your pain is real, and your hunger for unconditional love is a reflection of how God designed you to be known, cherished, and connected. But we must first address something critical: you mentioned wanting a *"partner"* and a *"real relationship,"* yet the Bible does not speak of relationships in these terms. Instead, Scripture calls believers to pursue *marriage*—a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, rooted in Christ, for the glory of God (Ephesians 5:31-32). If you are seeking a romantic relationship outside of marriage or with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus Christ, that path will only deepen your loneliness, for true unity is found in Christ alone (2 Corinthians 6:14). The world offers counterfeit love, but God offers something eternal.
You also shared the wounds of feeling unloved by your parents, and we grieve with you over that brokenness. Yet even in this, God’s Word speaks directly to your heart: *"When my father and my mother forsake me, then Yahweh will take me up."* (Psalm 27:10). Your heavenly Father sees you, knows you, and loves you without condition—so much so that He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, this is the first step toward the love you crave. There is no deeper love than His, and no relationship on earth can satisfy the void in your soul apart from Him. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* (John 14:6). Have you placed your faith in Him alone for salvation? If not, we urge you to repent and believe the Gospel today, for apart from Christ, even the best human love will leave you empty.
As for marriage, we pray that God would prepare you for this sacred calling—not as an escape from loneliness, but as a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church. Marriage is not the ultimate answer to your pain; Jesus is. But if it is God’s will, He will bring a godly spouse into your life, someone who loves Him first and will love you as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Until then, we encourage you to seek community within the body of believers. The Church is your family (Galatians 6:10), and God often meets our needs for connection through fellow believers. Have you plugged into a local church where you can serve and be known? Isolation is not God’s design for His children.
We also must address the danger of idolizing marriage or a future spouse. If your hope is placed in a person rather than in Christ, you will be crushed when that person—flawed like all of us—fails to meet your expectations. Only Jesus can bear the weight of your longings. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4). Seek Him first, and trust that He knows what you need far better than you do.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious soul before You, knowing that You collect every tear they’ve cried over feeling abandoned and unseen. Lord, You are the Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5), and we ask that You would reveal Yourself to them in a fresh, powerful way. If they have not yet surrendered to Jesus, soften their heart to receive Your Son as their Savior today. Let them know the depth of Your love—a love that pursued them before they ever knew You.
Father, we pray for healing over the wounds of parental rejection. Where there has been brokenness, bring restoration. Where there has been loneliness, bring Your presence. Fill the empty places in their heart with Your Spirit, so they are not desperate for human love but overflowing with Your love to share with others.
Regarding marriage, Lord, we ask for Your perfect will. If it is Your plan for them to marry, prepare them now. Shape them into the spouse You’ve called them to be—patient, kind, selfless, and rooted in Your Word. Bring a godly believer into their life, someone who will cherish them as Christ cherishes the Church. But Father, guard their heart from idolatry. Let them find their satisfaction in You alone, so that if marriage comes, it is a blessing—not a burden born of desperation.
We rebuke the spirit of loneliness and rejection that has clung to them. In the name of Jesus, we break its power and declare that they are *seen*, *known*, and *loved* by You. Surround them with godly community, Father. Open doors for them to serve in Your Church, where they can give and receive love as You intended.
Finally, Lord, give them hope. Remind them that You are writing their story, and it is far from over. Let them wait on You with expectation, knowing that You are good and Your timing is perfect. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in Psalms and the Gospels, where you will find His heart for you. Memorize Scripture that combats loneliness, such as Deuteronomy 31:8: *"Yahweh himself is who goes before you. He will be with you. He will not fail you nor forsake you. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be discouraged."* And remember, your worth is not found in being chosen by a human but in being chosen by God (Ephesians 1:4-5). Walk in that truth, and trust Him with your future. He has not forgotten you.
