We hear your pain and frustration, and we want to come alongside you in prayer and truth. It’s clear that you’re feeling deeply discouraged, and we understand how overwhelming it can be when we feel like God isn’t answering our prayers in the way we expect. But we must gently and firmly remind you that walking away from God, His Word, and His people is never the answer—no matter how difficult life feels. The enemy would love nothing more than for you to believe the lie that God has failed you, but Scripture tells us, *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up"* (Galatians 6:9 WEB).
First, we must address the seriousness of what you’ve shared. Abandoning your relationship with God, ceasing prayer and Bible reading, and pursuing a relationship with someone who is not a believer is a direct contradiction to God’s design for your life. The Bible is clear: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). This isn’t about judgment—it’s about protection. God’s boundaries are there to guard your heart, your faith, and your future. When we step outside of His will, we open ourselves up to pain, confusion, and spiritual attack.
You mentioned that God "could do nothing" because dating agencies and apps seemed to work where prayer did not. But we must ask: Did you truly seek God’s will in this, or did you seek your own desires first? Did you surrender this area of your life completely to Him, or did you hold onto control? The Bible says, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4 WEB). This doesn’t mean God is a genie who gives us whatever we want—it means that when we align our hearts with His, our desires begin to reflect His perfect will. If you were seeking a spouse, did you also seek God’s timing, His choice, and His way? Did you trust that He knows what’s best for you, even when it doesn’t look like what you expected?
We must also rebuke the lie that it’s "OK to abandon what is not working." God never promised that following Him would be easy, but He did promise that He would never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5 WEB). Walking away from Him is not the solution—it’s the very thing that will lead to deeper emptiness. The world will always offer temporary fixes, but only God offers eternal fulfillment. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"* (John 14:6 WEB). There is no other name by which we can be saved, no other path to true peace, and no other relationship that can satisfy like a relationship with Him.
We also want to lovingly address the fact that you did not mention Jesus in your request. This is not a small detail—it’s everything. Without Jesus, there is no access to God, no forgiveness of sins, and no hope for eternity. The Bible says, *"For all have sinned, and fall short of the glory of God"* (Romans 3:23 WEB), and the penalty for sin is death (Romans 6:23 WEB). But God, in His great love, sent His Son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins so that we could be reconciled to Him. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16 WEB). If you have never truly surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, repent, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Without Him, there is no salvation, no peace, and no true fulfillment.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is struggling. Lord, we know that You love him deeply, and we ask that You would break through the lies he’s believing right now. We rebuke the spirit of discouragement and deception that is telling him to walk away from You. We declare that You are faithful, God, and that Your plans for him are good—plans to prosper him and not to harm him, plans to give him hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB).
Lord, we ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to the truth. Help him to see that walking away from You is not the answer—it’s the very thing that will lead him further from the life You have for him. We pray that he would turn back to You, repent of any sin, and surrender his desires, his relationships, and his future into Your hands. Give him the strength to resist temptation and the wisdom to seek godly counsel.
Father, we also pray for the woman he mentioned. If it is Your will, we ask that You would draw her to Yourself, that she would come to know Jesus as her Lord and Savior. But if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would close the door completely and remove any temptation to pursue it further. Help him to trust in Your timing and Your plan for his life, even when it’s hard.
Lord, we ask that You would restore his passion for You, his hunger for Your Word, and his desire to be in fellowship with other believers. Surround him with godly men who can encourage him, pray for him, and hold him accountable. Remind him that You are near to the brokenhearted and that You save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18 WEB).
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we can be saved. May Your will be done in his life, and may he come to know You more deeply through this trial. Amen.
Brother, we want to encourage you with this: God has not forgotten you. He sees your pain, your loneliness, and your frustration, and He is working even when you can’t see it. The enemy wants you to believe that God has failed you, but the truth is that God is always at work for your good (Romans 8:28 WEB). You may feel like giving up, but we urge you to press in instead. Run *to* God, not away from Him. Pour out your heart to Him, and let Him heal the wounds that are causing you to doubt.
If you’re feeling disconnected from God, start by confessing that to Him. The Bible says, *"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you"* (James 4:8 WEB). Open your Bible, even if it’s just a few verses a day. Start with the book of John or Psalms if you’re not sure where to begin. Find a local church where the Word of God is preached faithfully, and get plugged into a small group or Bible study. You need the support and encouragement of other believers, especially when you’re struggling.
As for relationships, we strongly urge you to step back and seek God’s will first. If you’re not in a place where you can pursue a godly marriage, then wait. The Bible says, *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Yahweh"* (Proverbs 18:22 WEB). Notice it doesn’t say "he who *dates* a wife"—it says "he who *finds* a wife." Trust that God knows who is best for you and when the time is right. In the meantime, focus on becoming the man God has called you to be. Pursue holiness, serve in your church, and let God prepare you for the spouse He has for you.
Lastly, we want to leave you with this promise: *"Being confident of this very thing, that he who began a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ"* (Philippians 1:6 WEB). God is not done with you. He has a plan and a purpose for your life, and He will see it through. Don’t give up. Don’t walk away. Surrender to Him today, and let Him lead you into the abundant life He has for you.
