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Disciple of Prayer
The background of what happened is that ### had been calling me frequently, and one day she brought me some vegetables from some charity organization, delivering them to ### for me to take home. However, when I got home, I discovered that the vegetables were all rotten, and my mother had to throw them away.
Later, ### asked me to come to her house to help change a light fixture and assist with clearing out her rubbish so she could organize her belongings. I agreed and went over on the scheduled day. I managed to unscrew the light, but some parts required a mini screwdriver which she couldn’t provide. Without the proper tool, I had to leave the fixture hanging and couldn't complete the task.
Still, I spent my time from 3 p.m. to 9 p.m. helping her clean and sort through her hoarded items. As a gesture of appreciation, ### invited me to dinner, which cost $28, and I accepted.
The following day, I had other commitments and informed ### that I couldn’t come back right away to finish the light repair, and asked to postpone it to the next week.
Yesterday, she messaged me and called me “good to see but not good to use,” accusing me of being unprofessional. I want to make it clear that I was helping her purely as a friend. If she requires professional services, she should hire a qualified technician — someone who comes with the right tools and gets paid for their work and disputing about the dinner which ### offered me and said it was a compensation.
I offered my help in good faith, without compensation, and I don’t appreciate being spoken to in a disrespectful way or being taken advantage of. Due to this behavior, I’ve decided to block her and step away from further contact. I value mutual respect in any relationship — friendly or otherwise — and I won’t allow myself to be used under the pretense of friendship.
Later, ### asked me to come to her house to help change a light fixture and assist with clearing out her rubbish so she could organize her belongings. I agreed and went over on the scheduled day. I managed to unscrew the light, but some parts required a mini screwdriver which she couldn’t provide. Without the proper tool, I had to leave the fixture hanging and couldn't complete the task.
Still, I spent my time from 3 p.m. to 9 p.m. helping her clean and sort through her hoarded items. As a gesture of appreciation, ### invited me to dinner, which cost $28, and I accepted.
The following day, I had other commitments and informed ### that I couldn’t come back right away to finish the light repair, and asked to postpone it to the next week.
Yesterday, she messaged me and called me “good to see but not good to use,” accusing me of being unprofessional. I want to make it clear that I was helping her purely as a friend. If she requires professional services, she should hire a qualified technician — someone who comes with the right tools and gets paid for their work and disputing about the dinner which ### offered me and said it was a compensation.
I offered my help in good faith, without compensation, and I don’t appreciate being spoken to in a disrespectful way or being taken advantage of. Due to this behavior, I’ve decided to block her and step away from further contact. I value mutual respect in any relationship — friendly or otherwise — and I won’t allow myself to be used under the pretense of friendship.
