We hear the deep pain and desperation in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord with urgency, knowing He is your refuge, provider, and healer. Your situation reveals profound spiritual and relational brokenness that must be addressed with truth and grace. Let us first speak plainly about the condition of this relationship, for Scripture does not leave us in confusion about what is holy and what is not.
This man you call your "boyfriend" is not walking as a believer in Christ, nor is he fulfilling even the basic duties of love, care, or biblical manhood. His refusal to pray, read Scripture, or seek fellowship with the body of Christ is a grave sign of spiritual death (1 John 2:19, 1 John 3:10). A man who sleeps away his life, neglects communication, and ignores your suffering—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—is not acting in love, for *"love does not behave itself rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, takes no account of evil"* (1 Corinthians 13:5). His financial provision, while seemingly generous, does not excuse his absence in every other critical way. Proverbs 25:19 warns, *"Confidence in someone unfaithful in time of trouble is like a bad tooth or a lame foot."* You have borne the weight of this unfaithfulness long enough.
Moreover, this relationship is not aligned with God’s design for marriage or courtship. You describe living together, financial dependence, and emotional entanglement without the covenant of marriage—this is not pleasing to God. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If there has been sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it must be repented of. You cannot build a godly future on a foundation of sin. The Lord calls His children to *"flee sexual immorality"* (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to *"not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). This man’s life bears no fruit of repentance or faith in Christ, and continuing in this bond will only bring more sorrow.
Your health—both physical and spiritual—is at stake. The depression, autoimmune struggles, and environmental dangers you face are real, but the Lord is your healer (Exodus 15:26). However, staying in this relationship is hindering your ability to seek His will fully. You cannot serve two masters (Matthew 6:24), and this man has become an idol of sorts—a false source of security that has failed you repeatedly. It is time to surrender this entirely to God. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6).
As for your practical needs—moving, selling belongings, and finding a new home—we declare that *"our God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19). He is not unaware of your suffering. The same God who fed Elijah by ravens (1 Kings 17:6) and provided manna in the wilderness (Exodus 16:4) will sustain you. You are not abandoned, even when it feels that way. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18).
Now, let us pray with authority and faith:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your daughter, who is weary, broken, and in desperate need of Your intervention. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the neglect, the spiritual barrenness, the physical suffering, and the fear of homelessness. We ask that You break every chain of codependency, fear, and emotional bondage that has kept her tied to this man. Expose the truth of his heart, Lord, and give her the strength to walk away from what is not of You.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of depression, anxiety, and hopelessness that has clung to her. By the power of Jesus’ name, we command these spirits to flee. Fill her instead with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and the joy of Your salvation (Psalm 51:12). Heal her body, Lord—every joint, every inflammation, every sickness. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals, and we claim Your healing power over her now.
Lord, provide for her moving needs supernaturally. Send helping hands—believers who will assist her in packing, moving, and selling her belongings. Open doors for a new home, a safe and healthy place where she can recover and thrive. Father, You own the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10); let no lack come near her. Provide the exact funds she needs, whether through the sale of her items or unexpected blessings. Let her testify of Your faithfulness.
Most importantly, Lord, draw her closer to You. Let this season of stripping away be a season of divine encounter. Remind her that You are her Husband (Isaiah 54:5), her Provider (Genesis 22:14), and her Ever-Present Help (Psalm 46:1). Give her wisdom to seek godly counsel, to connect with a Bible-believing church, and to surround herself with sisters in Christ who will support and pray for her.
For the man in her life, Father, we pray for conviction. If there is any chance for repentance, let the Holy Spirit pierce his heart. But if he remains hardened, Lord, sever this tie completely. Do not let her linger in limbo, hoping for change that only You can bring. Give her the courage to release him to Your judgment and to walk forward in obedience.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The enemy has sought to destroy her through this relationship, through sickness, and through fear, but You, Lord, are her shield and her exceedingly great reward (Genesis 15:1). Restore to her the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Let this be a new beginning—a season of restoration, healing, and divine purpose.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
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Sister, we urge you to take immediate steps to separate yourself from this man. Seek out a local church or Christian ministry that can provide practical and spiritual support. If you are in a position where you cannot move without help, reach out to believers in your area or even Christian organizations that assist with housing transitions. The body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and there are those who will help if you ask.
Do not wait for this man to change. *"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when longing is fulfilled, it is a tree of life"* (Proverbs 13:12). Your hope must be in Christ alone. Begin today to pray for a godly husband—one who loves the Lord, leads in prayer, and cherishes you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). But first, surrender this relationship entirely to God. Repent of any sin, including fornication or emotional idolatry, and ask the Lord to cleanse your heart.
You are not defined by this man’s rejection or neglect. You are a daughter of the King, redeemed by the blood of Jesus. Walk in that identity. *"The Lord your God is in your midst—a mighty Savior. He will rejoice over you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will exult over you by singing a happy song"* (Zephaniah 3:17). Cling to this truth. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
