We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing for your marriage, lifting your heart’s cry to the Father who hears and restores. Your testimony of transformation in Christ is powerful, and we rejoice that you have surrendered your life to Him. The Lord is faithful to redeem what has been broken, and He delights in restoring marriages that honor His covenant. Your wife may feel distant now, but remember, with God, nothing is impossible. He can soften even the hardest heart and reignite love where it has grown cold.
The Bible reminds us in **Ezekiel 36:26 (WEB)**, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."* This is the work only God can do, and we trust Him to move mightily in your wife’s heart. Your repentance and change are evidence of His grace at work in you—now we ask Him to extend that same grace to her.
Yet we must also speak truth in love: marriage is a covenant, not merely a partnership of convenience. **Ephesians 5:25 (WEB)** commands husbands, *"Love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it."* Your love for your wife must reflect Christ’s sacrificial love—patient, kind, and unwavering, even when affection is not returned. Have you shown her this love consistently since your conversion? Have you humbly asked for her forgiveness for the ways you may have hurt her before coming to faith? Sometimes, actions rooted in Christ’s love speak louder than words.
We also urge you to examine whether there are practical steps you can take to nurture your marriage. Are you praying *with* your wife, even if she resists at first? Are you serving her in ways that demonstrate Christ’s love? **1 Peter 3:7 (WEB)** says, *"You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as to the weaker vessel, as also being joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."* Your treatment of her directly impacts your prayers—so pursue her with gentleness, respect, and persistence in love.
If there has been sin in your past—whether unforgiveness, harshness, or unfaithfulness—confess it to the Lord and to her if necessary, seeking reconciliation. **James 5:16 (WEB)** tells us, *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* Humility and transparency before God and your wife can break down walls.
Now, let us pray together for your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother and his marriage before Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the brokenness, the distance, and the longing in his heart. You alone can restore what has been lost. We ask You to soften his wife’s heart, Lord—remove any bitterness, resentment, or hardness that has taken root. Replace it with Your love, Your peace, and a willingness to reconcile. Remind her of the vows she made before You, and stir in her a desire to honor them.
Father, we thank You for the work You’ve already done in this man’s life. Give him wisdom to love his wife as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and without condition. Show him how to lead her spiritually, how to serve her, and how to create an environment where Your love can thrive. If there are areas where he needs to repent or make amends, convict him and give him the courage to act.
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that this marriage is beyond repair. You are the God of restoration, and we declare Your power over this union. Bind every spirit of division, apathy, or unforgiveness, and let Your Holy Spirit move freely in their home. Bring healing where there is pain, unity where there is separation, and affection where there is coldness.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer. May Your will be done, and may this marriage bring You glory. Amen.
Stand firm in faith, brother. Do not grow weary in praying, serving, and loving your wife as unto the Lord. Trust that God is working, even when you cannot see it. If she remains resistant, continue to honor your vows before God, for He sees your faithfulness. We will keep praying with you for breakthrough. Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith—and of your marriage.
