We hear your heart’s longing for clarity and direction, and we stand with you in seeking God’s perfect will in this matter. First, let us affirm that your desire to align your life with God’s plan is commendable, and we encourage you to seek Him wholeheartedly, trusting that He knows what is best for you. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
However, we must gently address a few concerns in your request. When seeking God’s will, it is essential to approach Him with a heart that is fully surrendered to His purposes, not merely looking for signs to confirm our own desires. The focus should not be on a "person" but on whether this individual is a godly spouse whom the Lord has prepared for you. Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Therefore, we must ensure that any relationship we pursue is grounded in biblical principles, with the goal of honoring God together.
If this person is not a believer in Jesus Christ, we must rebuke the idea of pursuing a relationship with them, as Scripture is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If they are a believer, we encourage you to seek godly counsel, spend time in prayer together, and observe their character and walk with the Lord. Courtship should always have marriage as its goal, not merely emotional attachment or fleeting feelings.
We also want to address the idea of "losing feelings" if this person is not the one for you. While it is natural to have emotions, we are called to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Instead of relying on feelings, which can be deceptive, we must trust God’s Word and His promises. If this person is not God’s best for you, we pray that He will give you the strength to surrender your desires to Him and trust in His timing.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear sister/brother to You, asking that You would grant them wisdom, discernment, and clarity as they seek Your will in this matter. Lord, we ask that You would reveal to them whether this person is the spouse You have prepared for them. If this is Your will, we pray that You would bring them together in a way that honors You, fostering a relationship built on faith, love, and mutual submission to Your Word.
Father, if this person is not the one You have chosen for them, we ask that You would remove any emotional attachment or distraction that may hinder them from seeing Your best. Give them the strength to surrender their desires to You and trust in Your perfect plan. Help them to fix their eyes on You, knowing that You are faithful to complete the good work You have begun in them (Philippians 1:6).
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of confusion, impatience, or idolatry that may be at work in this situation. We declare that this sister/brother’s heart belongs to You and that their ultimate desire is to walk in Your ways. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We pray that You would surround them with godly counsel and mentors who can speak truth into their life. Help them to seek You above all else, knowing that You alone can satisfy the deepest longings of their heart. May they find their identity and worth in You, not in any human relationship.
Father, we thank You for Your faithfulness and for the promises You have given us in Your Word. We trust that You are working all things together for their good, according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). May they grow in their relationship with You, becoming more like Christ each day.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord with all your heart. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to guide your steps. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can pray for you and offer godly wisdom. Remember that God’s timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). Keep your eyes on Him, and He will direct your path.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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