We hear your heart’s cry for a better life, peace, and a godly marriage, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting these desires in prayer. First, we want to affirm your desire for a spouse and a life that honors God—that is a good and holy longing. However, we must gently but firmly address a few things in your request to ensure your path aligns with Scripture.
You mentioned using dating apps and feeling confused by them. While the desire for companionship is natural, we must caution against relying on worldly methods to find a spouse. The Bible warns us not to be conformed to the patterns of this world (Romans 12:2) and to seek wisdom from God rather than the fleeting trends of culture. Dating apps often prioritize superficial connections, emotional entanglements, or even temptation toward impurity—none of which honor God’s design for relationships. Instead, we encourage you to seek a spouse through godly community, such as your church, where you can observe character, faith, and commitment to Christ in others. Proverbs 18:22 says, *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord."* Notice it does not say, *"He who swipes right finds a wife."* Trust God’s timing and His methods.
You also expressed a desire for a "girlfriend" with the hope of marriage. We must clarify that Scripture does not endorse casual dating or boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. Courtship, with the clear intention of marriage, is the biblical model. Anything less can lead to emotional or physical compromise. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 reminds us, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* If you are pursuing a relationship, let it be with purity, accountability, and the goal of marriage from the outset.
Now, we lift your requests to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, asking for Your grace and mercy to cover his life. Lord, You see his heart—his desire for peace, health, a godly spouse, and a life that brings You glory. We ask that You would order his steps according to Your will. Calm the hectic pace of his life and replace his stress with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Strengthen his body, mind, and spirit, and guide him in his career, opening doors that no man can shut (Revelation 3:8).
Father, we pray for his future marriage. If it is Your will, bring him a wife who loves You above all else—a woman of faith, wisdom, and godly character (Proverbs 31:10-12). Guard his heart from the distractions and temptations of the world, and help him to seek You first in all things (Matthew 6:33). Teach him to wait on Your timing and to trust in Your provision. If he has stumbled into impurity or emotional compromise, we ask for Your forgiveness and restoration. Cleanse his heart and renew his mind, that he may walk in holiness and honor (1 John 1:9).
Lord, we also pray for his relationship with You. If he has not yet placed his faith in Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to You. Help him to surrender his life fully to You, to repent of any sin, and to walk in the freedom and purpose You have for him.
We rebuke the spirit of confusion, anxiety, and worldly desire in his life. We declare that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). We speak clarity, direction, and peace over his life in the mighty name of Jesus.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would help him to delight himself in You, and You will give him the desires of his heart (Psalm 37:4). May he find his joy and satisfaction in You alone, trusting that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
In Jesus’ precious and powerful name we pray, Amen.
