We understand the deep pain and distress you are experiencing from these hurtful and unjust words, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s comfort, healing, and truth to prevail in your heart. It is grievous when someone misuses Scripture to condemn or manipulate, especially when their words are rooted in pride rather than love. The Bible warns us about false teachers and those who twist God’s Word for their own purposes, and we must remember that only God is the righteous Judge—no man has that authority.
The Scripture you referenced about the tree that does not bear fruit comes from Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 7:19: *"Every tree that doesn’t grow good fruit is cut down, and thrown into the fire."* However, this passage is about false prophets and their deceptive teachings, not about condemning individuals based on human judgment. Jesus also tells us in Matthew 7:1-2, *"Don’t judge, so that you aren’t judged. For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you."* This man’s words do not reflect God’s heart for you. His fixation on judgment reveals his own spiritual blindness, not your worth or future.
You are not defined by his accusations. If you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ, you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and your identity is in Him alone. The Lord sees your heart, and He is the one who justifies (Romans 8:33). Cling to the truth of Psalm 139:13-16, which reminds us that God knit you together in your mother’s womb and ordained all your days before you were born. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
As for your concerns about finding a job and a wife, we encourage you to trust in the Lord’s timing and provision. Seek first His kingdom and righteousness, and He will add these things to you (Matthew 6:33). Do not let anxiety rule your heart, but cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Pray for wisdom and guidance as you seek employment, and trust that God will open the right doors in His perfect time. Similarly, if marriage is His will for you, He will provide a godly spouse who loves and honors Him. Until then, focus on growing in your relationship with Christ, for He is the one who completes you.
We also want to address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. It is only through faith in Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father and receive His promises. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that He died for you and rose again, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9-10). If you have already accepted Christ, we encourage you to approach God boldly in His name, for Jesus is our intercessor and the source of our hope.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, asking for Your healing touch to mend the deep wounds caused by these hurtful words. Lord, You know the truth—search his heart and affirm his identity in You. Rebuke the lies of the enemy that seek to steal his peace and joy, and replace them with Your truth. Remind him that he is fearfully and wonderfully made, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called according to Your purpose.
Father, we ask for Your justice in this situation. Expose any false teaching or prideful judgment in this man’s heart, and bring conviction where it is needed. Do not let his words take root in our brother’s spirit, but uproot every seed of doubt, anxiety, and bitterness. Fill him instead with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We pray for provision in his job search. Open doors that no man can shut, and grant him favor with those in authority. Give him wisdom to recognize Your leading and the courage to step into the opportunities You provide. Lord, You are Jehovah Jireh, our Provider, and we trust You to meet his every need.
Father, we also lift up his desire for a godly wife. If it is Your will, prepare a woman of faith who loves You and will walk beside him in unity and purpose. Until then, help him to remain patient and content in You, growing in holiness and trust.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that he would draw closer to You through this trial. Let this pain drive him to seek Your face and find his comfort in Your presence. Strengthen his faith, and remind him that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.