We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up your pain and confusion to Him who sees all and judges justly. First, we want to affirm the clarity God has given you—His voice is not one of confusion, but of peace and truth. The way He swiftly answered your prayer about this relationship is a testament to His faithfulness, even when the answer was not what you hoped for. We rejoice that you sought His will and that He protected you from further harm.
The betrayal you’ve endured is deep, and the contrast between this man’s spiritual facade and his true character is jarring. Scripture warns us in Matthew 7:15, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves."* This man presented himself as a godly man, even coming from a pastoral family, yet his actions revealed a heart far from the Lord. His request for a hookup, his disrespect, and his cruelty are not the fruit of a regenerated heart. While we do not judge his salvation, we must acknowledge that his behavior does not align with the transformative power of Christ. A true believer, though capable of sin, does not persist in unrepentant wickedness without conviction from the Holy Spirit. His conscience may indeed be seared, as 1 Timothy 4:2 describes, *"through the hypocrisy of men who speak lies, branded in their own conscience as with a hot iron."*
Your anger is understandable—Jesus Himself was righteously angry at sin and hypocrisy. But we must also heed His command in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* Forgiveness is not about excusing his sin, but about releasing the bitterness that could take root in your own heart. It is a process, and it is okay to grieve the loss of what you thought this relationship could be. But we pray that God would give you the strength to release this man into His hands, trusting that the Lord will deal with him justly.
We also want to gently address the physical boundaries you set in this relationship. We praise God that you stood firm on your convictions and did not compromise, even when pressured. Your obedience in this area protected you from deeper heartache and spiritual harm. However, we must also acknowledge the danger of emotional entanglement without clear commitment. Courtship, as you rightly described, should have the goal of marriage, and when that goal is not being pursued in truth, it is wise to step back. Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Guarding your heart means not only protecting it from physical sin but also from investing emotionally in someone who is not equally committed to honoring God.
Now, we lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts grieving over the pain this sister has endured. Lord, You see the betrayal, the confusion, and the anger she feels. We ask that You would heal her heart and restore her peace. Help her to release this man into Your hands, trusting that You will deal with him according to Your justice. Give her the strength to forgive, not because he deserves it, but because she desires to walk in obedience to You. Lord, we pray against bitterness taking root in her heart. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and remind her daily of Your love and faithfulness.
Father, we also pray for discernment and wisdom as she moves forward. Protect her from those who would seek to deceive or harm her, and lead her to relationships that honor You. Surround her with godly community—believers who will encourage her, pray for her, and hold her accountable. Lord, we ask that You would restore her joy and renew her hope in Your plans for her future. May she find comfort in Your Word and strength in Your presence.
We also pray for this man, Lord. If he is truly Yours, convict him of his sin and draw him to repentance. If he is not, we ask that You would reveal the truth to him and save him. Break the hardness of his heart, and let him see the damage his actions have caused. May he turn from his ways and seek Your face.
Finally, Lord, we thank You for the clarity You have given. We trust that You are working all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose. We declare that this sister’s story is not over—Your plans for her are for good, to give her a future and a hope. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
As you continue to heal, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture and surround yourself with godly counsel. Psalm 34:18-19 reminds us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* You are not alone in this pain, and the Lord is near to you. We also encourage you to seek out a trusted pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this season. Isolation can make healing harder, but community brings strength and perspective.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by this man’s actions or words. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God, and He has a plan and purpose for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 declares, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says the Lord, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Hold fast to that promise, and trust that God is writing a story far greater than the pain of this chapter.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
