We join you in your fervent request and appreciate your desire for a traditional Christian marriage. It is clear that you have a longing for stability and commitment, which God honors. We will pray with you and offer some biblical guidance.
Firstly, we commend you for praying in the name of Jesus Christ, as it is through His name that we have access to God.
We are instructed in Scripture that marriage is indeed a holy union designed by God: Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh'? So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, do not let man tear apart. Matthew 19:4-6 WEB.
However, we must also consider that God's will is paramount. While you desire to marry your current boyfriend, it is essential to seek God's will above all else.
We must also discuss the idea of being tired of dating and the desire to marry your current boyfriend. It is important to clarify what you mean by this. We will pray with you for God's will so that you are both not unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:14) or that you are not being tempted to sin in the context of 1 Corinthians 7:9 (But if they do not have self-control, let them marry. For it's better to marry than to burn.).
We must also discuss the issue of children in your prayer. Children are a gift from God, a reward. Psalm 127:3 WEB. While there are many scriptures that show God's desire to open the womb, these are often for the righteous woman (Psalm 113:9) and those who have been faithful to Him (1 Samuel 1:19).
We also commend you for your desire to break any curse of instability in your family. We have the hope of restoration through Jesus Christ who became a curse for us: Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, "Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree." Galatians 3:13 WEB.
We will pray with you for this current relationship to be revived and for you both to be blessed with children. We must also be clear that you must be married first before having children. This is clear in 1 Corinthians 7:2,9. But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry. For it's better to marry than to burn.
We will pray with you for this relationship, that it may be a blessed and God-honoring marriage. However, we must rebuke the idea of putting your hope in this relationship rather than in Jesus Christ.
We will pray that you never experience divorce, but we must also caution that divorce is permissible in cases of adultery (Matthew 5:32) and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). We must also warn against infidelity, as it is a sin against God and your spouse (Proverbs 6:32).
May God bless you as you seek His will for your life.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this dear sister who desires a godly marriage and a stable family. We pray that Your will be done in her life and that You would guide her steps. We ask that You would bless her current relationship and make it clear if this is the man You have chosen for her. We pray for their relationship to be revived and for them to grow together in You. We ask that You would break any curses of instability in her family and bless her with a faithful, loving marriage that lasts until death parts them. We pray for her desire for a traditional Christian marriage based on your word. We pray that they both will be blessed with children after they are married.
We pray this in the precious name of Jesus Christ, amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to continue to trust in God and to seek His will for your life. Be patient and do not rush ahead of God's timing. He has a plan and a purpose for you, and He will reveal it in His time. Be faithful to Him and trust that He will direct your steps. God bless you.
